My buddy’s wife would get up IMMEDIATELY and take the baby out.
I could sit amongst the kids in church...and barely notice them.
My buddy would notice the slightest thing (or so it seemed to me)
A slight lean forward. A slow turn of the head, and eye contact, was ALL it took to make a child change.
They trained their kidS from the youngest age, so that when they got older, seldom anything more was needed.
One old guy who sits in the back was listening to my cousins kid go on and he whispered to me, “I wish they would let your wife deal with him for a couple of weeks this would stop...” My wife had to take our oldest son out 3-4 times for acting up and he paid for it on the front porch of the church. The last time he was heard to exclaim “But momma I don’t want my butt busted!” She took out daughter and youngest son out once and that was enough.
We have a grandmother in our church now who has twin, three year old grandsons she brings to church and she routinely carries a Tupperware icing spreader with her and will wallop their little bottoms when they get out of line. I wish my cousin would take note!
One Sunday evening my cousin finally took her son out to the nursery and it is located behind the sound room where I work. For fifteen minutes I heard her beg, plead and cry trying to negotiate and reason with a three year old. Then he found a cabinet which butted up against the sound room wall and he started wailing on the door, slamming it as hard as he could, shaking the wall and it could easily be heard in the auditorium.
Again more begging, pleading, empty threats from his mom. Finally after a couple of minutes of this nonsense I had had enough and opened the sound room door and pointed directly at him and in a firm voice I told him, you slam that door again and I am going to wear you butt out, you STOP IT NOW, you are disturbing the entire church service! I saw fear in his eyes and my cousin didn’t word. I closed the door and he never touched the cabinet door again. Within ten minutes my cousin took him to the car out the back door. How can a college educated woman believe you can negotiate and reason with a three year old!