And God also told men to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.
And that men are to treat their wives as they treat their own bodies, which they don't abuse but nurture and care for.
Women are not blind or stupid and they can see when that isn't happening.
There's a back and forth dynamic there and men are responsible to lead and have abdicated that role.
Or they turn into little petty tyrants in the home, demanding submission and the wife walks around on eggshells hoping to not tick him off so he doesn't blow a gasket at her.
EVERY complaint a man has about women's behavior can be said about men.
Not thin and attractive and when they were younger? Check.
Controlling and domineering? Check.
Think the world revolves around them and it's all the other's fault? Check.
Two very imperfect people get married and BOTH come into the marriage with baggage and BOTH need to work together to deal with it.
It's a rare couple I've met who are so compatible that they say they don't have any problems.
The rest who stay together are just mature enough to have figured out how to work through it TOGETHER.
Not he commands and she submits.
I have read the responses to this thread in their entirety. It is so very true that one cannot expect more than he or she is willing to give. Here is a perspective though. A thousand women ages 20-35 were shown a thousand random pictures of men in the same age range. Fully 80% of these men were rated as below average in attractiveness. If you put the guys in a new Mercedes the opposite would have been perceived.
>And that men are to treat their wives as they treat their own bodies, which they don’t abuse but nurture and care for.
Is it abuse when a child is spanked by it’s father? It is not.
>There’s a back and forth dynamic there and men are responsible to lead and have abdicated that role.
The state has made it illegal for men to lead through normal means. How can you twist what the men with guns force husbands to do into all men abdicating the role? Men have no choice in this age.
>Or they turn into little petty tyrants in the home, demanding submission and the wife walks around on eggshells hoping to not tick him off so he doesn’t blow a gasket at her.
I’ve never seen this type of relationship in real life. I suspect it doesn’t exist.
>It’s a rare couple I’ve met who are so compatible that they say they don’t have any problems.
There are few problems when people assume the correct roles. I’ve looked at tons of arranged marriages where compatibility was even considered before the people where hitched and as long as people assumed the correct roles the marriages was excellent.
>The rest who stay together are just mature enough to have figured out how to work through it TOGETHER.
My parents marriage got a hundred times better when my mother just decided to submit and obey. My Dad didn’t change at all nor did they work through anything. She assume the role God gave her and things started functioning better. My Father naturally become more dominate and commanding as he no longer had to fight my Mother.
>Not he commands and she submits.
Do you think command is easy? Command is hell. All the responsibility for the outcomes sits on your shoulders and you have to make good decisions that work out for everyone. It’s not fun. But it’s the role God has given to man just as it’s the women’s role to submit and obey her husband. Outside of these roles is the death of a marriage.