Right. That’s what I have started thinking. But it seems like something had programmed my wife to think that if there were “silence gaps,” that it was a sign we didn’t love each other or something. She recognizes that it’s not true now, but there still seems to be this pressure to talk when it’s silent to “show” or demonstrate we have some deep connection.
Maybe a silent physical sign would be good, like holding her hand, a touch, like that.
I think insecurity is sometimes involved.
This may have to do with you trying to be a "Free-Lance Journalist"
instead of holding down a real job which pays actual money.
Get you a real job, Quit thinking that anyone gives a shit about what you think or write on your blog.