The problem I have is my wife only talks to criticize, demean, or demoralize me.
She won’t talk to me about the bills (I put 80% of my paycheck in HER account that I have no access, and she pays the bills with that and her paycheck; I use the other 20% for gas, lunches, oil changes, etc.).
I have the opportunity for a free night out - dinner, dancing with a live band, drinks, the whole she bang. She just would have to get dressed, and ride (I’d even drive the 30 minutes there and 30 minutes back). On a Saturday - when she’ll be napping, and be energetic enough to go “out”. She said “I don’t want to drive that far” - I told her I’d drive. She said, let me rephrase, I don’t want to GO that far.
Ok, so that tells me what I’m worth, right?
There’s a reason I separated from her in October, and I’m trying to take baby steps to go back, but with crap like that, why go back to be miserable again?
You want to really get her attention...change your deposit status to 100 per cent your account...then she has to talk to you....and show you the accounts!
Why on earth would you put 80% of your paycheck into an account you have zero access to? If anything, it should be the other way around but I always have access to 100% of my money and my wife has access to around 50% of that.
Don’t go back then. Life is short. If it starts getting real short go back. Then it will feel longer. Bad joke.
If no minor children are involved and you have done your best then start over. Sometimes it just doesn’t work and it’s not your job to fix someone else or to make them happy.