It’s not as bad as all that. I’ve been married to a Southern woman for almost thirty years.
I’ve found there are three things that are essential to having a wife operating on the same page as yourself.
1.) Let her know in no uncertain terms the kitty does NOT make her the lawgiver. That street goes both ways and if she goes somewhere else to get scratches...no if’s and’s or but’s...it’s over. No reconciliation, no parting friends, only lifelong enmity for her betrayal.
2.) Read Rachael Simmons “Odd Girl Out” for the definitive catalog of female “alternative aggression strategies.”
You have to read between the lines to separate her feminist BS rationalization for such underhanded, hypocritical, tactics and concentrate on recognizing the tactics themselves.
3.) Sharpen your debating skills so that you can use what you learn from Simmons to truly convince her she is acting like a petulant little $h!t when she doesn’t get her way. If she’s truly a good woman, she’ll change her ways. If not, BOTH of you will know beyond any shadow of doubt she doesn’t deserve what she’s asking for.
Brace up, you pussies.
Sorry, I’m kidding, but my Y chromosome makes me do weird stuff sometimes.
I’m married to someone with narcissistic tendencies, and it get tiring, but she is good at her core and we have 7 grandchildren. I’m willing to put up with the temper tantrums and stuff. Plus, I would feel horrible for her second husband. He should thank me now.
Well said. I think women respect men who don’t allow women (or anyone) to walk all over them. It’s almost as though they resent men who are passive and allow them to act like spoiled children. I remember my grandfather putting up with a somewhat entitled woman, but he did so without yelling and always seeming like he didn’t get rattled. I think that’s important as well.