Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Women are all difficult is what I’ve learned
They are emotional self centered creatures who do not by nature fall on the sword
Southern women are passive aggressive and have to have their way
Totally subconsciously I married a woman just like my mother
Has to have her way about anything except what has consequence then it’s all on me because if I’m wrong then it’s my fault
They feel like you manage their happiness and entitlement
I don’t know how my dad stayed so cool about it
I don’t but then I pay a price via the super hot wife’s favored weapon
And we all know what that is
We’re a family now of four males and her in the home and we truly revolve around her being happy so yes this article is fairly accurate but being southern she doesn’t yell for nothing
Women get more nervous and mercurial with age too I think
It’s like Tale of Two Cities
It was the best of times ....it was the worst of times
The woman is the heart of the family if she’s mercurial then everybody knows it
Taming of the Shrew was not written from nothing
On the other hand there’s sex lol
I’m being candid....women today are often spoiled as hell
Plain rurnt and the culture just makes it worse
So boys choose wisely and even then she will likely change and not fit the better
So she better be good to start
I look at old photos of my gg grandma and I think that’s when women were cooler....maybe
I’ve known some good girls including kind women on the forum but often now with the 4-5 women under my shot caller family position I have to just walk away
Someone will always be unhappy or drama sh!t stirrer
I hate to sound so gloomy but our women have lost their way and we’re all suffering for it
In the realm of spousal abuse, female bullying is likely far more pervasive than male physical violence. Yet is is hardly mentioned at all and would fail as a defense should a male react physically to years of abuse.
Or to put it another way that I have heard: She has the [kittycat], she makes the rules.
Everybody has a right to be who they are, in every day life and in a relationship. But we have to be ready to accept the consequences for being ourselves.
I didn’t know these things I’m recommending when I was young. I just lucked out and married a good woman who treats me well.
My wife and I have some laughs. Then she says, just sit back, relax, let the poison work. I offer a strained smile.
“Ladies, does you husband do any of these things to you?”
oh, yes
On my second and successful marriage, I think that a future spouse should be selected by a group of family members and some friends. That should go a long way on weeding out the truly incompatibles.
What a lovely story! You were blessed to have each other.
There are some wonderful men out there. Kind, honorable willing to put their life on the line for you. One sweet thing my husband does is take the side by the road when we walk. Once he put himself between me and a rather shady man walking towards us. Even the shady man respected it!
And there are sweet , loving women out there. We may not look like supermodels and yes, we may get emotional at times. But it is up to us older women to guide the younger. Titus 2.
The “female bullying” you refer to is almost always accompanied by PHYSICAL VIOLENCE. Read my earlier post upthread.
But no one ever talks about it. Men are afraid of being ridiculed. And they are afraid to defend themselves because all she has to do is to show one little bruise on her wrists (where he held her to stop her from continually punching him in her rage), and HE is the one arrested.
Females are responsible for at least half the marital violence. Its just that the men keep quiet (and being bigger, and able to absorb a punch, the effects are not nearly as obvious the next day as they are if a man slugs a woman).
But the psychological impact is the same. A man living under this sort of reign of terror suffers the exact same psychological harm as his female counterpart who is suffering under a violent man.
Except he has no support groups, and lives in fear of being ridiculed.
To those of you to whom this is completely outside of your reality, a short explanation:
This sort of thing doesn’t “just happen”. Victims in these relationship (male and female) are “programmed” by ther family of origin (usually because they were raised by an abusive parent of the opposite sex) to seek out this type of partner as adults - without realizing it.
This background also predisposes them to accept the abuse and to internalize it as being their own fault. If you don’t have this sort of family background, you are not likely to wind up in this sort of situation.
If you do have this sort of family background, you are almost certain to experience it, at least once, as an adult.
Whether you are male or female is irrelevant. Both men and women can be the victims, and both men and women can be the abusers in these types of relationships.
It’s not as bad as all that. I’ve been married to a Southern woman for almost thirty years.
I’ve found there are three things that are essential to having a wife operating on the same page as yourself.
1.) Let her know in no uncertain terms the kitty does NOT make her the lawgiver. That street goes both ways and if she goes somewhere else to get scratches...no if’s and’s or but’s...it’s over. No reconciliation, no parting friends, only lifelong enmity for her betrayal.
2.) Read Rachael Simmons “Odd Girl Out” for the definitive catalog of female “alternative aggression strategies.”
You have to read between the lines to separate her feminist BS rationalization for such underhanded, hypocritical, tactics and concentrate on recognizing the tactics themselves.
3.) Sharpen your debating skills so that you can use what you learn from Simmons to truly convince her she is acting like a petulant little $h!t when she doesn’t get her way. If she’s truly a good woman, she’ll change her ways. If not, BOTH of you will know beyond any shadow of doubt she doesn’t deserve what she’s asking for.
Brace up, you pussies.
Sorry, I’m kidding, but my Y chromosome makes me do weird stuff sometimes.
I’m married to someone with narcissistic tendencies, and it get tiring, but she is good at her core and we have 7 grandchildren. I’m willing to put up with the temper tantrums and stuff. Plus, I would feel horrible for her second husband. He should thank me now.
Does getting angry when I wash motorcycle parts in the bathtub count?
It also does not seem to calm them a bit when you explain to them that you put the two rubber truck mud flaps in the tub to specifically prevent damage to the porcelain.
(My transition from 46 years of bachelorhood to domesticated husband has not been without some glitches)
LOL
I have to agree with her.
Men are just more up front about things, if they are not the sort that just clams up to avoid conflict.
Okay, the part about the mud flaps really DID make me LOL!
Men are also as self-centered as all get out.
The running joke, and it’s not really much of a joke, is that mothers actually have more children than they gave birth to.
The ones they bore and the one they married.
Too many men want a mommy with sex privileges.
If you think that ALL women are difficult, the problem isn’t with the women.
That is sooooo true, but rarely will someone who is *in love* willing to listen. They think they can work it out.
One of the problems is that many men seem to think they deserve the “10” smoking hot woman and won’t look past the exterior to see the character.
Age takes its toll and it seems to me that the better looking the woman in earlier years, the less well she ages.
What a coincidence. That happens just about the time the men get a roving eye for 22 year olds gals.
Nope, none of those. My wife is far frm perfect, as am I, but she has a good heart. I am very lucky.
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