I not a particularly religious person, but I checked the Divorcecare program out at a local church. It was recommended by a friend that went through it. It was 13 weekly session with others going through the same thing. It helped enormously. I was a basketcase before I started going. I finished it up about 4 months ago. Glad I went.
I agree with finding a program like DivorceCare.
And you don’t have to be a Christian to benefit from what churches with Divorce Recovery programs have to offer. They’ll accept you wherever you are at and give you the support you need.
Also, see if you’re ex will agree to go to a neutral mediation counselor. It could save you a bundle. If you each get you own lawyers to fight, they will almost encourage an adversarial relationship, because that means more $$ for them.
Mediators have no such motivation.
Good luck!