I notice that no one else is actually addressing the question I asked.
Well I don’t know what to say. I would like to comment more but it’s hard without more details.
“So, I would like to know how others contend with their own dilemmas.”
Alcohol(not in excess) for a time and then I got over it. I will see what God says about it some day. I the meantime it cannot be undone.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ck-8gupG5hE