You are correct that WWII was devastating to German civilians but, in order to compare the two situations, you would have to believe that declaring war on foreigners abroad is the same as declaring war on your own countrymen. The motives for going to war with Germany were totally different than the motives for invading the South. The Confederate cause did not include attacking, invading the North or antagonizing the North in other ways. By the way, you may not see me weeping for the German civilians but you don’t see me not weeping either.
If that were the case, there wouldn't have been a war. Confederate forces were doing what they could to "antagonize the North" -- seizing and destroying property, inciting rebellion, etc.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought that the entire point of the confederacy was their claim that they were no longer part of the United States and were, in fact, now a foreign country. You can't declare yourself a different country, then complain that you're treated like one.
The Confederate cause did not include attacking, invading the North or antagonizing the North in other ways.
Yeah, shelling Fort Sumter wasn't the least bit antagonizing to the United States.