in which whiteness, patriarchy, heteronormativity, cissexism, ableism and classism prevail
What the hell is "whiteness", "heteronormativity," "cissexism", or "ableism?".
To do this, we must understand and be accountable for our privilege. Rashad, go up my old neck of the woods of Roscommon County and see the "privilege" I grew up with. Rural poverty.
We must be willing to address the uncomfortable in a wholly racialized, politicized and sexualized society to create safer spaces for all to exist and thrive in.
The problem is that you aren't willing to do so.
I would tell him to grow a pair, but he might misinterpret that to mean breasts.