FYI, I grew up in a small town where both the parents, his teachers, and youths of the same age group (12-14) were terrified of one fellow. His parents dared not both to sleep at the same time until he was finally committed to the state reform school and permanently removed from the community.
Well, of course I would prefer the Deuteronomy route if we could go that way but “dream on”.
The only difference between me and you as near as I can tell is you prefer to use the term “reform school” and for our BROKE government to pay for it.
Whether reform school or adult probation, the parents are responsible and should not get off scot free.