Yes, it is. And it's certainly easier to be a good husband when your wife is being a good wife.
The devil rejoices in that marriage.
The Enemy despises marriage, and does everything he can to ruin it ... counterfeiting it with queers, sabotaging it with selfishness, poisoning it with contempt ... may God grant us all the grace to persevere in love.
Likewise, it's certainly easier to be a good wife when your husband is being a good husband. Men are supposed to lead.
One thing I've noticed that is a problem, is the mentality that women are there just to take care of the men. Some men are so doted on my their mothers, that they expect the same from their wives and treat them like some kind of second class citizen who is there simply to meet his needs and allow him to live as he pleases with no thought of her.
A friend related to me once how her m-i-l bragged that while growing up, her sons never wanted for anything. My friend said to her, *And you didn't do your future daughters-in-law any favors*.
No woman wants an overgrown child who treats her like some kind of servant or second class citizen.