The idea of Lee's personal honor and general saintliness was promoted for a long time to get around the morally questionable way he turned his back on his oath and long-standing loyalties. Today, we can finally have the discussion about his actions that was put off for so long.
Your position and that of others is anachronistic. The issue of primary loyalty in those days was generally towards the state and the county. There was no intent to be disloyal towards the Nation, but the intent was loyalty to the State of Virginia. (By the way I am a Union man.)I'm merely supporting Lee who is becoming a victim of PC. He is part of American greatness.
With regard to Lee there is nothing to discuss, debate or to state "different points of view." It is extremely important to those who are at war with America to denigrate America's great men. Hence, the attack on Washington, Jefferson, Lee etc.