I don’t think we are on the same team, and assessment is not personal, or shouldn’t be taken that way.
Bro, in the 12 step program that I am part of, they always tell me that I have no power over other people, places, and things. All I have power over is my attitude and immediate actions. They tell me that I shouldn’t take anyone else’s inventoty, but only find where *I* have been wrong and where *I* can make an amend. I clean my side of the street, only. It’s a really good way to live!