True, but I've seen signs of light glimmering through the fog recently.
One sign that there might be a sea-change coming in the thinking of so-called educated women came a couple weeks ago ... when I heard an NPR commentator talking about taking her impaired child to a special therapy class.
She said she "couldn't help but notice" that most of the other moms bringing their tots to this class were "older career women," like herself.
This got her thinking that maybe, just maybe, there could be a correlation between being an "older mom," and having an impaired child. She allowed that her experience was anecdotal, and also reasoned that her location (urban NYC) was likely to produce a lopsided proportion of such cases.
However when this NPR person did a little more research, she found that the phenomenon did not appear to be confined to hip, urban areas, but was a nationwide trend.
One NPR commentator doesn't make a trend; however I think this insight is going to spread like wildfire amongst older career women. Their desire to have children will be very dampened once these women begin to realize that their chances of having that "perfect" child (as you put it) are significantly diminished after about age 34.
My wife and I joke about how "having children is for the young". We have 2 boys and when they were young, and especially during their teenage years, they wore us out. Thank the Lord all turned out okay, but these 40 somethings are going to be in their 60's when their children are still in college.