Posted on 08/13/2013 6:38:01 PM PDT by ClaytonP
Wow, an article and 17 replies before someone names the Numberone cause.
These are the kids of the toxic divorce generation. They are damaged. They know the horrors of divorce court.
A man can save a lot of time and effort he just buys a house and gives it to a woman who doesn’t like him.
Great question!
There is no doubt that along with women living some fantasy "I can have it all when ever I want lifestyle" men are becoming just as infantile with their Peter Pan attitudes. I look first at women because it is women who are the driving force in socialization. Men tend to be driven by physical urges whereas women used to be driven by stability and safety. It seems as the "nanny state" takes on more of the masculine role of providing stability and safety that the roles which built a healthy society are breaking down.
Because these roles are breaking down we are seeing lower birth rates. You will see what this means by looking at Japan, Italy, Greece, and France.
I think if you look around you might be surprised to find that the girls that have a sense of humor and smile tend to have a lot of boyfriends.
Guess I’m just too old fashioned. Not sure how/why marriage, the roles of men and women, and the need for both mothers and fathers got so distorted. There just doesn’t seem to be any “ours” any more.
I am fortunate in that I live on a cul de sac with only 14 houses. Thirteen of the homes are occupied by families with adults in their late 30’s or early 40’s, all the guy have stable jobs, all have at least 2 children. All the women have degrees and could work outside the home but all think raising their children is more important. None have a great deal of money but are so wealthy in so many other ways. Just a real unique situation and, unfortunately, the exception rather than the rule.
Placemark
True, but I've seen signs of light glimmering through the fog recently.
One sign that there might be a sea-change coming in the thinking of so-called educated women came a couple weeks ago ... when I heard an NPR commentator talking about taking her impaired child to a special therapy class.
She said she "couldn't help but notice" that most of the other moms bringing their tots to this class were "older career women," like herself.
This got her thinking that maybe, just maybe, there could be a correlation between being an "older mom," and having an impaired child. She allowed that her experience was anecdotal, and also reasoned that her location (urban NYC) was likely to produce a lopsided proportion of such cases.
However when this NPR person did a little more research, she found that the phenomenon did not appear to be confined to hip, urban areas, but was a nationwide trend.
One NPR commentator doesn't make a trend; however I think this insight is going to spread like wildfire amongst older career women. Their desire to have children will be very dampened once these women begin to realize that their chances of having that "perfect" child (as you put it) are significantly diminished after about age 34.
My wife and I joke about how "having children is for the young". We have 2 boys and when they were young, and especially during their teenage years, they wore us out. Thank the Lord all turned out okay, but these 40 somethings are going to be in their 60's when their children are still in college.
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