Well, I will only speak from what I see in my family ....
My two sons are participating fathers. Both are married to strong women. Between them I have 5 grandchildren - the driving, coaaching, watching, picking up, taking home, cooking, cleaning, entertaining, yard work, sleep-overs, is shared between them. Even taking time to going out as a couple, (just the 2 of them).
I see the love, respect, and pride they have for each other and their children.
It is very nice that your family is perfect; but, it sure is a discussion stopper and really off topic.