[frithguild]

A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books.

a 13 year old menacing his family with a knife. So, a strong response from a father is what he needs?.

His 7 and 9 year old siblings knew the safety plan—they ran to the car and locked the doors before I even asked them to.

Did your father teach your other family members about a safety plan when you were 13? What happened hat this mother felt in necessary to have a safety plan? Is she talking about the first timethat he menaced his family and threatened to harm himself, or have there been others? How frequent?

We still don’t know what’s wrong with Michael.

a pregnant “we”

Autism spectrum, ADHD, Oppositional Defiant or Intermittent Explosive Disorder (Unpremeditated impulsive aggression defined by a disproportionate reaction to any provocation, real or perceived) have all been tossed around at various meetings with probation officers and social workers

So the criminal side of the courthouse is involved for a 13 year old and they have this kids medical information. Unusual? Why is the court system involved? Why is the mother interacting with them apparently repeatedly?

and counselors and teachers and school administrators.

So the school has his medical information – not huge, but not something my father had to do when I acted up at that age.

We decided to transfer him to the district’s most restrictive behavioral program, a contained school environment where children who can’t function in normal classrooms can access their right to free public babysitting from 7:30-1:50 Monday through Friday until they turn 18.

When I was a kid the words “Reform school” was still around. This kid is well into the IDEA classification process. Places like this cost a fortune. Such a placement is not easy to get and not provided without great consideration, medical consultation and often input from state and county government organizations.

If you missed these things, feel fortunate.

[DouglasKC]

A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books. a 13 year old menacing his family with a knife. So, a strong response from a father is what he needs?.

A strong response from the father AND mother was needed when he was 3 or 4 and consistently thereafter. By 13 it's obvious the mother's parenting, or lack thereof, has already born fruit.