How can God be in control when man has free will? God doesn’t control what evil people might do to you or your family.
Subservience. We must choose to let God take command of our lives and be Lord over us. God does not control us - but we choose to follow His leadership and direction.
God certainly can limit what others can do to you, and he can intervene if He so desires. I am sure He has but since His interventions change what happens to you, you’d never know it in this lifetime.
Man has free will but it’s not unlimited free will. You only can do so much. We can’t break God’s natural laws for example. We can’t be in two places at once. We can’t wish things into happening on our own. Can’t see the future. Can’t magickally heal ourselves or escape death. Can’t go back or forward in time. And even with free will, man’s plans often fail quite badly.