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I told my wife this afternoon, “I want to be clear. I am standing for the restoration of our marriage. It involves a covenant till the end of time.”

She replied, “I know you are.”

Her position is that her decision is irreversible.

I told her I will never be with another woman, that she is my only love forever.

"I told her I will never be with another woman, that she is my only love forever." I may not be a rocket seorgeon but it sounds like you may have strayed. It's admirable that you want to patch up the relationship but understand that if you did what it sounds like you did then she may do the same thing to you. You need to be prepared for that. She might not, but she might. I'm still sorry for your situation. In the meantime get drunk, sober up tomorrow morning and go buy something you have always wanted. It doesn't matter what it is. You're about to be a much poorer man so if you want something nice you better go get it.

I told my wife this afternoon, “I want to be clear. I am standing for the restoration of our marriage. It involves a covenant till the end of time.”

You need to immediately change that posture. You need to show her no affection whatsoever, only common courtesy. You need to take her at her word and not allow yourself to indulge in fantasies about her coming back. When she goes you need to make sure she takes all of her stuff with so you can begin remodeling for your bachelor pad. If she leaves anything behind, you need to leave it on her new doorstep in the rain. You need to get the best attorney you can and push aggressively for an early disillusion date. After a reasonable amount of time (one year max) you need to actively seek women to date.

The ironic thing, doing all of the above is the only chance you have to save the relationship. And if it doesn't (and it probably won't), it's what you need to get on with enjoying the rest of your life.

I know all this is counter intuitive and you won't follow a word of this advice, but five years from now, you will wish you had.