" He was however a Master Sergeant ... very disciplined indeed."
Thank you for reading this so soon, and sharing this too. He must have been an awesome man and Dad - losing him so young must have been hard. The discipline you have showed here over the years .... I've always been struck by it, and now it makes a lot of sense. I have a hunch he is really proud of you up there.
"Such a child will unconsciously feel threatened by the fear of being killed also--but rather than direct his aggression against the perpetrator/mother, who has proven herself a child killer already and therefore a dangerous character, he will direct it at the target which is safe--the father who was not there and who failed to protect the infant."
This perspective totally fits and it had not occured to me. Do you have links to any psychology related articles that go into more depth about this? (And thank you very much for your positive remarks)
Thank you oh so very much for all the kind words of encouragement!