No, because not every airport allowed families and friends to the gates to begin with. It isn't your right at all- it's the right of the airport to set forth rules that are in the interest of public safety. Do I have a right to park in front of the airport? As for the searching, I don't know about you, but random searches happened (albeit less frequently) before 9-11. Everytime I have flown since 9-11, I have been asked if I would mind being searched. No one has been thrown down and forced to submit to a search, though it would be interesting to see what would happen if someone said no. But you do have the choice to refuse. You also have the choice to drive. Or take a train.
And for the phone calls, a bit paranoid, don't ya think? Last time I checked, the patriot act allowed listening in on terrorist suspects. If you are not plotting to kill Americans then you have nothing to worry about.
Oh I think after listening to a few calls with my mother .. they'll reget that soon enough ..