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There is more than one reason why men in their forties often marry women twenty years younger than them--middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder. Who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone like that?

BeckIE,

I think Southflanknorthpawsis was trying to give you some honest, sincere, feed-back. YOU are the one who has questioned the reasoning behind some comments to you. I would suggest you ponder.

I honestly read her comments to you in only a sincere light. And you are correct, if others do NOT want to respond to details of your personal life which you seem determined to share, they CAN ignore you. But that rather limits the reason for you to interact on this forum doesn't it? How many people ignoring you would it take for you to at LEAST consider the advice you have been given?

I wish you well. But I will NOT respond to personal details re: proms/thongs/oils/come-ons/your personal sexual mores, drinking habits, etc. That is NOT MY reason for participating on this forum.

There is more than one reason why men in their forties often marry women twenty years younger than them--middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder. Who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone like that?

[Raised eyebrows.]

You know, Beckie, I am not one to bother you too much. I generally refrain from posting to you (compared to others), but I must say that this simply shows your breathtaking lack of maturity (spiritual and otherwise).

I would think, given your background, that you would have learned a little something about a Christ-centered marriage by now.

So, when you're forty (and you WILL be...one of the little ironies of all this) and your husband dumps you for a sophomore snow bunny, get back to me. I'm sure you'll blame it all on the "chip on your shoulder".

The fact is, most - if not all - of the women you seem to be alluding to have very happy marriages with very satisfied and happy husbands.

If you're going to make statements like this and do Monica Lewinsky-style flirting with men in their forties and fifties, I know I'm not the only one here who would very much appreciate you requesting a new screen name. Please. That's all I ask of you.

This could get me banned, I suppose, but that's all right. If I got something through your head, it's worth it.

There is more than one reason why men in their forties often marry women twenty years younger than them--middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder. Who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone like that?

Quite an alarming thought process coming from a pastor's daughter.........quite alarming.

A good many men that marry younger women leave a wife and children in ruin. It has more to do with selfishness than anything else.

I wouldn't know, I've been married to the same man since I was 21 years old, but my experience tells me that women with your pestering nature are often the first ones left on the chopping block. At the rate you're going, you may never get far enough to find out

There is more than one reason why men in their forties often marry women twenty years younger than them--middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder. Who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone like that?

ATTN ALL MEN!!!

This thread has now become unsafe for those of us of the gentler sex. HIDE before they get UGLY!!!

middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder

Middle age women were once 20 years younger. Looks like you have something to look forward to.

wow, you sure cast judgements over a whole lot, don't you?

You weren't going on experience were you? Like, how old was your mom when she got married? Just wondering.

"There is more than one reason why men in their forties often marry women twenty years younger than them--middle aged women often have an unbearable chip on their shoulder. Who would want to spend the rest of their life with someone like that?"

Often? Not hardly. I've been married 22 years and we don't have a single friend, including those that we've had since high school, that has married somebody in their 20's, or even has dated someone that young. We don't even have any friends that are divorced much less dumping their wives for sorority girls. When we do see a couple in a restauraunt or somewhere, and the man looks old enough to be her father, my husbands first thought is that it's a "paid escort".

So tell me, does your father pant after 20 something girls? I thought not. Is your mother a middle aged woman with a chip on her shoulder that your father would be much happier without? Would he dump her for a college girl? You know he wouldn't. You should try thinking before you spew trash such as this.

You say you don't date much, you should also try it, how will you know when you've found the "right one" if you have nothing to compare it to? You're living a Harlequin novel that Mr. Right is going to come riding along on his white horse and sweep you off your feet.

It might also help you to get over that older man fantasy you're having. I understand Larry's already married. Though "I am sure" his wife is probably a middle aged woman with an unbearable chip on her shoulder. Who knows, maybe you've got a shot after all...