What the writers of the book and article fail to focus on: extramarital affairs are first and foremost about LYING. These affairs are not about sex, not about unmet needs, not about romance-—they are about LYING plain and simple. These women who cheat on their husbands are liars and deceivers, shame shame shame on them.
These narcissistic women may be getting away with their double lives for now, but eventually their false lives will catch up with them. When that happens, entire networks of family and friends will be hurt and/or destroyed. It’s not just the husband and the children who suffer because of a faithless selfish wife.
You nailed it. It’s about lying. For your own selfish gimmes.
I sacrificed for many years to try and save my marriage (cheating was not at all involved). Because my kids are worth it.
I would never ever cheat because I am not a liar. And I won’t be a liar. Period. The right thing to do is to tell your spouse it’s over. And that means your family is over too, all for your selfish orgasms. Really? But you cannot have your family be safe and unhurt, and cheat on your spouse. When you cheat on your spouse, you are also cheating on the kids. And passing down the solution to rough times: be selfish and get your jollies at the expense of others.
At the very least, divorce the spouse.