I equated it with the death of a child
That’s a pretty defining comparison
Family law is based entirely on The Man Must Be A Bastard standard, precluding women who divorce from feeling any need for accountability about their own actions.
The women will still get the family, the home, the stuff, the current cash, and future post-divorce cash by way of her permanent ownership of her ex-husband’s labor, all due to The Man Must Be A Bastard standard.
I have not been in nor am I facing such a situation but it is the default.
But your description was so ... entertaining.