Your post makes my point: (a) working in construction in an effort to convince yourself you’re equal to a man, (b) raising cats, (c) talking about how strong and independent you are... I could go on and on.
What on earth is this cat thing?
So she raises cats.
You are over the top.
Go away.
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Ay, por favor, senor-you don’t even know me or anything about me-I’m a ranch kid from remote W Texas-brought up on a small family ranch, in large extended Texas family of Latino ancestry-a traditional Catholic family. Men and women are equals when it comes to ranch work and other employment, but we were taught traditional roles for man-woman relationships-we were each to respect the other, and never be abusive.
My 1st job off the ranch was for my uncle who was a drywall contractor-I showed a love and aptitude for construction at a young age-I love that work still-won’t apologize for that. We were all taught to be self-reliant-if you can’t do that, you just might starve, especially if you end up alone after a death or divorce-goes for men, too...
I got a degree in social work-married a military man who went to college, became a P.E., had a child and was a stay at home mom for as long as my husband and I thought I should, while he taught me the finer points of construction-he was delighted to do so. I didn’t like social work-took courses in voc rehab, got a workers comp adjusters’ license, became a workers comp case manager-did that for 30 years-my marriage ended after 20 over his addiction to much younger women-s*** happens sometimes.
I married MrT5, a career military officer-after he retired from service and went to work at the VA as a counselor, we realized we could not both be case managers and have a good result-he who has the gold makes the rules-since that was MrT5, I changed-went to work in construction again-worked out great for us both.
If I were not strong in my faith in God-and self reliant, my husband’s untimely death would have done me in...
We always had 2-3 cats-shelter cats we gave a home-we also always had a large “real” dog-German Shepherd, Chow, Siberian Husky. I have 3 shelter cats now-hardly “raising cats” since they are neutered-don’t you even like pets?
Neither of my husbands treated me as a subordinate, but an equal human being-they were both secure enough in their masculinity to do that, as is my guy now-my man is always mi rey-never anything less, and no one is more important to me-my mom certainly taught me that.
I see no reason not to do the work I love and am good at to make a living-I earned enough money with my degree, now I can do as I like-BTW my man is an LEO, not some metro wimp.
Don’t know where you are from, but Texas women-especially Texas country women-just don’t usually fit in to your ideal of a perfect submissive female-and most of our cowboys love and respect us just the way we are. One size does not fit all you know-might need a ladder to get down from that horse you’re on...
No, your posts make your point and we all see it.Or at least some of us do, lol.