Question: Can you, tomorrow, announce that your house is now a separate country, no longer bound to the United States?
Apparently if you are big enough to whip the army sent to force you back, then yeah. At least according to what I can make out of your reasoning.
But a house is not a community, and a community is not a State. As the body of people wanting independence increases, at some point it becomes their right.
But let me ask you this. If a wife wants to leave her husband, is it his right to force her back?