for friendship, for acceptance, for inclusion
So this isn't about being in plays, band or chorus or raising the flag on the flagpole. If he is able to do those things it would be a simple matter of asking.
So when other kids sign up for things, they should do what? read his heart and use a crystal ball to discern how to include the kids who didn't sign up? If you don't even know, how can you expect the school to know?
Here is an idea. Find out what your child is interested in, find out what role he can play and then go to the school and actually ask/goad them into letting your child participate.
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Not so serious--> The kid in the picture, if feels left out, he should sign up for wrestling or the swim team. :p
If a child cannot express that he wants to be in a play, how exactly will he be able to act in a play? If he is unable to communicate how does he read his lines?
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Honestly, I am wondering if YOU are autistic yourself ...you take everything so literally.
My son is autistic. His brain does not process at the same speed or in the same non-linear fashion, the same DYNAMIC fashion as that of a typical child. Perhaps he sees the play and thinks it’s neat. Perhaps he looks at the kids in the play and admires how they act or sing or dance. But does he CONNECT all of this and actually bubble up with the desire to run to his teacher and beg to be put into the play? Heck no ...it doesn’t go down like that.
And am I the pushy mother who is going to barge into the school and DEMAND that my son be included in everything? Nope. Not me ...not my style.
It just doesn’t happen like this ...
for friendship, for acceptance, for inclusion
So this isn’t about being in plays, band or chorus or raising the flag on the flagpole. If he is able to do those things it would be a simple matter of asking.
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that’s what I’m getting at ...it’s NOT just a simple matter of asking ...
So when other kids sign up for things, they should do what? read his heart and use a crystal ball to discern how to include the kids who didn’t sign up? If you don’t even know, how can you expect the school to know?
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I’m sorry, but I DO feel, at least at the elementary level, that many typical children are encouraged to do things and TRY things for the sake of trying them, because someone, some teacher believes that they should try it. They don’t necessarily ASK to do it .. .they are LED TO DO IT. The schools KNOW who wants to participate ...or perhaps they do not. Perhaps they don’t believe special kids can participate, and so they hold them back.
Here is an idea. Find out what your child is interested in, find out what role he can play and then go to the school and actually ask/goad them into letting your child participate.
Why should I do that? Why can’t the teachers figure this out and encourage him? They are WITH him more than I am during the school hours. Do OTHER parents have to do this?
BTW, my son can read. He’d be able to read lines just fine.
There is also the confidence issue ...something that results from a lack of social skills which is problematic in autism to begin with. So how do you solve that? If you’re constantly kept on the periphery, what do you think that does for a child’s confidence level?
Your problem is you know nothing about the disability. You think everything is so black and white ...so easy. It’s just not that easy, my friend.
Either that or you just get your jollies by goading on the mother of an autistic child. If THAT is your issue, then you can go to h*ll.