My daughter's "boyfriend" has been on crutches or in a wheelchair all his life (they're 14) and one of the most popular kids around. My first "real" conversation with him started out with me asking him if he thought it appropriate he should be asking my daughter to be his "date" for the big dance, without first having formally introduced himself to her parents. (they were in 7th grade at the time.) My husband was appalled, our daughter cringed, but the young man just looked at me and said something along the lines of - no, not really, you tried to "help" pick me up off the floor on Halloween, I think we have been introduced enough.
I was appropriately put in my place and I admired him for not being cowed, but he has also thanked me for not looking at his crutches and learning to look at him for him.
She’s 14? OMG, when did she grow up so much?