my sister and i talk, i had to just inform her our brother died. shes is 10 years older then i am and has a drinking problem. she was denied guardianship of my dad because she makes so many problems out of everything. i love her but its better we stay far apart and have a phone relationship. i've taken her in when shes been depressed, she suffers from huge depression but i just refuse to deal with someone who drinks and will not help themsleves. its no powerplay on my part ...i'm just mad and sad my mom didnt get her wishes.
I can relate to dealing with drinking problems. It's endemic in my family, and I can't deal with it any more. So I don't. They are on their own in that department.