thank you. the thought of cremation didnt sit well with me either. more for selfish reasons of my own, i wanted a place i could go and sit and talk with her and put flowers. but i also know she didnt want a huge costly funeral. my witchy sister thinks she is going to bury her when my dad dies. but now i have the power to stop her. if i knew where my mom was id break her out and let her go. its sad when siblings have to be this way, thats why my wishes are down in writing and my sister isnt invited.(lol)
It's all too common, but the fights used to be more over wills or lack of them. I hope you two can somehow reconcile. How can your poor mother rest in peace with that going on, her ashes being held hostage? I feel very sad for you and your mother whom both of you surely should realize would not have wanted it to come to this in this situation. It sounds like a childish power play.
Is there any way your father can arbitrate this sorry mess? My father had a horror of something like that happening in the family, and planned everything very carefully and fairly to do everything in his power to prevent such a thing.
I remember childhood bickering, but when push comes to shove, I try to give in rather than have a falling out with my sister. That would be disrespectful to my parents' memories.