If you don't have to lie to your spouse about what you are doing, then it's not cheating.
Whenever you feel guilt, or know your hidden actions will cause your partner pain - - you'd better examine your relationship and your commitment. I think the issue is about deception, lying, cheating....not necessarily just about sex.
Excellent point!
Consider your actions.
IF you truly wouldn't mind your spouse in exactly the same situation, it's probably not cheatin'.
Further, if it's something you don't want to let your spouse know about, it probably IS cheatin'.
P.S. If I were married, I wouldn't feel comfortable with my spouse chatting on the 'puter, one-on-one, with another woman. I believe it opens the door to compromise.
Lead us not into temptation.