Hi, RnMomof7!!! Long time no see!
What I think (just my honest opinion) is that where you stand (or what you believe) about Election as you walk this earth has little direct bearing on our duty as Christians, which is to intercede for the lost and help to lead the elect (whoever that is, and none of us know) to Christ (our Lord!!!)---- and, most especially, to GLORIFY GOD. (And the Westminster Catechism would add: "...and to enjoy Him forever.")
And what was it that Micah the prophet said about what the LORD requires of each and every one of us?
It's fun to discuss doctrines like this, which make us search the Word of God and really THINK... On the other hand, getting into ARGUMENTS about something like Election, which two Christians that are equally loved by the Father may not agree on, is a waste of time, and an obstacle in fulfilling our calling (duty).
What you say is so true, hopefulpilgrim, and I really needed to hear it.
Bless you!