[OldBlondBabe]

My dad relayed a story about a young man with whom he attended high school in the mid-40s.

Behaved effeminately; all the girls liked him, found him easy to talk to, more like a "big brother" or a close friend. His parents had been killed and he had been raised by two elderly aunts. He was NOT homosexual; grew up, married and had a family.

Now, if there is some sort of "physiological" influence toward homosexuality, that this boy may have had it since birth, or if there was some trauma or abuse during childhood...perhaps the situation might have turned out differently due to the influences of environment?

[agrarianlady]

Here are some ideas about this fellow's situation. His father had been killed. He didn't have any male role model at all in the immediate home. On the other hand, he didn't have a negative male role model, either. Perhaps his aunts managed to consider his masculinity in the home and respected it.

Also, perhaps he had developed a solid male identity in his toddler years?

Perhaps, too, at the time (mid-40s) homosexuality was such a taboo subject that the idea never had a chance to take root in his mind and grow.

I certainly know many effeminate (or musical, artistic, or compassionate) men who do not participate in homosexual activity.

Perhaps it's the inward identity thing more than the outward appearance.