Lost a lot of relatives though, cousins killed at Shiloh, at Resaca and at Tunnel Hill. My g-g grandmother's oldest sister's husband, John Stewart, was killed at Shiloh and his body was never found. My g-g grandfather was one of his best friends in the same unit. He was wounded, and while he was in the service his wife died laboring of twins (who died with her). He had one surviving child (my g grandmother) and never remarried. I get the impression from family letters that he had PTSD but of course nobody understood that then.
Another g-g grandfather was wounded at Shiloh, also at Nashville and at Chickamauga. He was a lawyer and banker in Eufaula AL and the Commander of the local UCV after the War. They invited Sherman to come speak - to a standing o. (Sherman was much loved in the South after the War because he opposed Reconstruction.)
Still another g-g grandfather led a charmed life - he was the classic combination of humility (almost shyness) and incredible bravery. He did a lot of valiant (some would say stupid) stuff as a cavalryman/ "partisan ranger" and never caught a scratch. Came home afterwards, went back to farming, had a bunch of kids, lived into his 80s.