Posted on 12/02/2016 8:28:13 AM PST by Morgana
Edited on 12/04/2016 11:59:41 PM PST by Admin Moderator. [history]
FULL TITLE: Gay man is left stunned and hurt after Catholic pastor bans him from singing at his own grandmother's funeral because of his sexuality, insisting that it would 'cause a scandal'
A gay man has told of his shock and disbelief after a Catholic pastor banned him from singing at his grandmother's funeral because of his sexuality.
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The're simply antagonists looking for 15 minutes.
The short answer, don’t post your whole life on facebook. Yes the whole town knew he was gay.
Just a suggestion: He could have changed the venue to the funeral home. My Mom wanted a videotape of Dad’s funeral service. Her church said no, the funeral home said yes, so she changed the venue. It isn’t rocket science.
Why was he thinking he would be allowed to sing in the first place. I’m betting the family who made the arrangements are telling him to “get lost”....
People have got to stop being so easily offended. The grandmother wanted to be buried according to the Roman Catholic rite - so you abide by their rules.
Regards,
he’s used to butthurt. he’ll be fine.
I’d wonder if there are more details than shown in the story, that this is more than a long-ago thing with him and they really don’t want the scandal, or to be played by it as though they had suddenly affirmed the lifestyle. Ave Maria is a classic Catholic devotional (as crazy evangelical I don’t believe its theology, but understand its religious significance in the Catholic context).
Basically, the church is refusing to be used against its own conscience, if I sense this right. And that is the church’s right. If the family wanted to have a separate non-church memorial, then they could have this fellow and do whatever else they wanted.
The grandparents were devout Catholic and as such, this would be out of the question. Not just for them but the rest of the family who still follows the faith. It must be done at a funeral Mass in church.
[’The priest’s reasoning is by attending such event, I am opposing the Catholic Church’s fundamental marriage belief,’ Connor wrote on Facebook.]
CONNOR wasn’t going to ‘attend’ the event. He wanted to take part in a holy ceremony and sing Franz Schubert’s Ave Maria.
And if they are, it’s being quite ignored... and blamed on the church.
Homosexuals have the legal right not to be discriminated against on the job. They do not have the legal right to sing at a Catholic funeral. What is the matter with these people???
EXACTLY!!!
Who has the official Free Republic Butthurt form for this man???
Smart thinking.
He was not a church member. he is excommunicated ipso facto by his homosexual actions. Only way for him to come back into the church is stop being gay and go to confession.
The Pastor could simply have told the man privately that though his public actions would keep him from receiving Communion, or taking part in the Mass in any other way, his honoring his Grandmother by simply singing Ave Maria would be OK. Who knows, it might have even given this man pause, and have him see the Church for her mercy, and maybe moved him to reconsider his choice of lifestyle down the road. The Pastor's actions here will make that much less likely.
If you read the letter, he wasn’t singled out for being gay. If he had been a divorced and remarried hetero, the same restriction would have applied. It’s simply the Catholic church (specifically this parish) taking a stand on what they will and will not permit during the course of a Mass in their facility. I respect that. He’s just choosing to make it a gay issue, because it has to be all about him. It isn’t.
Choices have consequences. He chooses to be gay and being banned from singing in the church is a consequence.
Righhht!
For this snowflake being Catholic means there are no standards, no rules, no ethics, no morality. There is only love of self and doing whatever pleases him.
“Basically, the church is refusing to be used against its own conscience, if I sense this right.”
Thanks for understanding this so well.
As a Catholic, I am happy to see a priest who will stand on this principle.
If he had caved, no one would have said “boo” to him, so this is an act of courage.
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