Posted on 05/04/2015 8:58:36 PM PDT by kathsua
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In a recent article in The Harvard Crimson, a student shared her story of having an abortion after her boyfriend broke up with her. She writes, “All I desperately wanted was to have my boyfriend back. I wanted him to hold me and let me cry into his chest, for him to tell me that everything was okay even though it wasn’t. But by the time I found out the truth, it was too late to get him back. He had started dating another girl two months after we broke up. I couldn’t tell him. I couldn’t tell anyone.”
At the time, the woman was four months pregnant because she didn’t find out about the pregnancy right away. However, she decided to have an abortion because she thought that was all she could do. She said, “I called the clinic and made an appointment for a week’s time. That week was the hardest of my entire life. I hid underneath baggy sweaters, convinced that someone would notice how round my stomach had gotten. I was pale and withdrawn, and skipped almost every class to cry in my bedroom. I woke up every day praying that I was having some extended nightmare. I wasn’t.”
She continued, “I headed to the clinic a week later with just a book, a water bottle, my Harvard ID, and a locket containing a picture of my ex-boyfriend and me. The procedure didn’t take long. It wasn’t even that physically painful. But when it was over, I screamed. I couldn’t stop screaming. As I write these words, it has been over a month since the abortion—and on the inside that screaming hasn’t stopped.”
Tragically, this is the response of countless women who’ve abortions and our culture’s growing praise of it isn’t helping. Women are told that abortion is a safe and simple procedure, much like having a tooth extracted; or that there will be no long-term side effects and their life will go back to normal.
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However, studies show that over 65% of women who have abortions suffer from post-abortive syndrome, 31% have health complications, and post abortive women are six-times more likely to commit suicide than women who give birth. Also, many women who have abortions are coerced or forced into it by parents, spouses or partners. For these women, this “choice” society brags about really isn’t one at all.
Unfortunately, for the Harvard student, she feels like she has to hide the secret forever and that no can help her now that she’s already had the abortion.
She writes, “…Part of what makes it so hard is there is no one to help me deal with that pain. I wish that I had support. I wish that someone would tell me I’m not a horrible person for making the choice that I did, or say that they sympathize with my agony. But I can’t tell anyone, even my family, about my abortion or my child. I did end up telling my ex-boyfriend. I wanted him to realize that we’d never actually been broken. I sobbed into his chest and confessed everything. I told him about my guilt and my pain. He still didn’t take me back. He told me to tell him if anything was seriously wrong, but he didn’t support me when I needed him and reached out for help. Maybe now I’m just too messed up for him, or anyone else, to deal with.”
She concluded, “It is frightening how hard it can be to find support at Harvard. I was shocked by how easy it was to hide my pregnancy. No one, not even my roommates or best friends, noticed how I suddenly started wearing exclusively baggy clothing, or how I kept cancelling plans last minute so I could cry in my room. No one noticed that I was vomiting on a near-daily basis, though I passed it off as “a winter bug” for weeks on end. We’ve talked before about how here at school, we’re so wrapped up in our own lives that we forget to pay attention to others. We ignore the little signals from our friends that something could be amiss, even if we don’t realize that we’re doing it. I think I truly wanted someone to notice that something was wrong. I wanted someone to ask if I was okay, to tell me that I wasn’t acting like myself—because, really, I wasn’t.”
Thankfully, there are groups like Silent No More, Rachael’s Vineyard and Priests for Life that offer help for those hurting from their abortions. Hopefully, this Harvard student reaches out to one of these organizations and gets the resources she needs.
You would have to be a sociopath to have an abortion and not have regrets.
When you see other children, sometimes you will wonder what your child would have been like. When old, you will long for the company and comfort they might have provided.
Losing a child is always a tragedy. Having killed it, is a special shame - hard to see yourself as fully good after that.
From what I have read, many who have had abortions never have children......they don’t feel they deserve to have children after what they have done. Prayers for those not strong enough to resist the Left’s abdication of conscience, and of course for those innocent lives lost.
Such Harvard geniuses, can’t even figure out how NOT to get pregnant.
I am quite surprised, pleasantly surprised, that the Harvard Crimson printed this.
half of the harvard student body just triggered. coeds are going to drag their mattress to classes for the next month.
The church will have to step up as a haven for these sad and now regretful cases rather than as a house of perpetual blame. Because the culture will not help.
And it should even extend that to those who have regrets about gayhood, which a lot still do in spite of a minority of adamant loudmouths. Because again the society is telling them “embrace the weird.”
If the salt is made unsalty, what will make it salty again?
Let's see, you didn't tell your boyfriend that you were pregnant and that you planned to have his child killed, then you DID have his child killed without his knowledge or consent, and now for some mysterious reason he doesn't want you back.
I have NEVER met a woman who had an abortion and ended up being mentally ok. I was friends with gals from a few tough ethnic neighborhoods.
The ones that had abortions had cried to me about it the ones who thought i didn’t know would tell me they did something bad in the past and God is punishing them and cry. It was horrifying and heartbreaking.
The ones who it didn’t seemed to bother were so mentally gone it didn’t matter.
These were al lower class neighborhoods with Italians, Irish and and Jews.
Hilary loves to push abortion because she doesn’t know people who feel like they have no option. She doesn’t care either.
She could start a foundation with all her money to help these girls have the kid. But she wont. Because she has an evil agenda. To KILL babies.
I used to comfort one girl who cried so often so many years later. She would tell me God is punishing me so bad. She was on the verge of a breakdown. I loved her but never told her. She started cutting herself. I should have married her and taken her away from everything. that was 15 yeas ago. I’m 46 now.
I should have taken her away to a place where we could have kids and she could forget about abortions and Bensenhurst and all the garbage that surrounds these broken down areas in Brooklyn.
Wherever she is, i hope she’s found piece.
GOD DAM abortionists and those who support them.
I know a woman, stridently leftist/feminist in almost all respects, who is very quiet about abortion. She calculated the approximate date that her aborted daughter would have been born, and every year on that date she has a little private ceremony, to acknowledge what she admits was a horrible mistake. All the conservative pro-life arguments in the world wouldn't have convinced her to not have the abortion, but now she understands.
That’s frigging heartbreaking. Every year. She will never forget.
She seeks “support”? Maybe she needs to find Jesus and repent
Every woman I ever knew who had an abortion has issues relating to it...
and considering that a woman’s primary role in life, like it or not, is to bear and raise children... these issues can be life threatening!
I should have read further down the thread - you said it very much better than I did.
No I didn’t I just told what really happened. Nobody wanted to have her for long, after they got bored of the sex, because though she was stunningly pretty, she was damaged and very hard to deal with because, at lest in large part, of the abortion years earlier.
I loved her and didn’t care about the damage. but something held me back and I don’t know where she is anymore. One always thinks what might have been...
And some think they can fix a broken wounded creature when they cant.
Truly only grace can overcome it.
This is how we know the world has gone mad.
Good Lord! She’s writing about terminating her own child, and all she can manage is to pule and whine about “her pain,” “lack of support,” and no one noticing the sadness of that special little snowflake that is she.
Disgusting. But that’s where this “soup kitchen” pro-life philosophy has lead.
Interesting how the only outrage socially accepted in these cases is reserved for the sperm-donor who has zero legal authority to compel or restrain the abortive action of such erstwhile mothers.
It is, but it's also a sane, intelligent response, that attempts to acknowledge the seriousness of her mistake without letting it drive her crazy. I was impressed.
Every year. She will never forget.
Exactly right.
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