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Humans are designed to start having sex and procreate in our teens. Older societies understood this.

Perhaps we need to abandon the idea of late marriage.

I was thinking the same thing while I typed.

The problem is the college and masters thing.

Also the incredible immaturity level at 18 today compared to 100 years ago.

That's true; but our society is consumer driven (mainly by / for women); and women don't want to have a life of ramen noodles and rusty old cars, because they are TEH AWESOME.

So they wait for the guys to climb the ladder, and in the meantime sleep with everthing that gives them tingles;

along the way learning that

--they are entitled
--they can have it all
--they are better than men
--men are disposable
--they are owed a life of constant interesting things, excitement, and prestige, without ever having to give, defer pleasure, or experience hardship
--and gaining sexual experience with many different men. They learn how to lie about this first to themselves, then to other men, d@mmit, because they're not a slut, like all those other women.

--then when they get their Master's' degree and a couple of years working, Mr. Handsome Millionaire Handyman Stud will show up and sweep her off her feet, just in time for 1 or 2 designer children

*crickets*

When the poor involuntarily celibate cube dweller who she finally settles for ("Where have all the good men gone?"), marries her, she suffers culture shock in that

--she can't leave complications behind with him, like she did with her overseas weekend fling
--bills need to be paid
--she doesn't have the money for all those nights out (hint: guys paid her way but she didn't notice)
--she's expected to *stay home* and not flirt with all the other men
--she's expected to have sex, when sober, to a non-"10".
--she gains some status but loses bragging rights and "Freedom".

So she divorce-rapes him after a couple of years, keeping the kids, and trying to relive the careless hedonistic days of her youth.

This is made possible by women working; contraception and the pill; and women refusing to marry until they're 30.

None of which is sustainable.

Marriage based on “love” is a fairly new phenomenon. I am beginning to think the arranged marriage thing has merit.