Posted on 04/12/2016 12:07:42 AM PDT by Marie
Today, we found out that we've lost our 22 year old son.
He'd been missing for a couple of days and they found the body this evening. He wrecked his motorcycle and ended up in a ditch where nobody could see.
I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to accept this. I don't know what to do with this.
And I can't pray.
I'm not mad at G-d or anything like that. I mean that I have no words. I don't know how.
Can you please pray for me? Just add me to your prayer list for a little while?
I cannot grasp that this loving young man is gone from my life forever. I don't know how to be all right with that.
I know that I need to sleep, but that seems like such a strange thing to do. I don't know how to function. What's normal when he's not on this planet?
Dear Lord, I miss him so much already.
What a beautiful tribute to your son, Marie. I know he became that sort of man in no small measure from the love and support your family shared.
I try to live my life as a celebration of Gods gift in much the same way you describe your Griffin naturally doing but, so often I lose that focus you describe. I will try harder today to find that part of myself which he demonstrated.
May Our Lord grant you His comfort and may He help you find joy again through the memories of your son.
He lives on in your heart, in the people he has helped and inspired, and in the people they will help and inspire.
It will be a long time before the love he gave and freedom (yes, freedom) he opened people's eyes to quit being passed on to others by those he gave it to.
What mother, what father, what sibling would not be proud to have been such an intimate part of a life that has already given so much to so many and will continue to give as they pass that on?
What would he say to you now?
There will come a time when that void is filled by the warm memory of his love, of his nature, and the host of memories that brings, and the pain you feel now will be filled with the precious warmth of having known and loved him.
Until then, I pray Almighty God brings you His Peace and Solace.
May Almighty God Bless You all, in the Name of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit, Amen.
‘He’d been missing for a couple of days and they found the body this evening.’
Prayers up!
I believe that the life your son lived made it possible for others to live — literally. His gifts to mankind, on very personal levels, were no different than gifts by organ donors. Perhaps his were more valuable in a way, as they changed people’s hearts and minds in ways that will last throughout their lifetimes.
You should be so proud of the man you raised.
Dearest FRiend, he is still in your lifes.
He lives on in your hearts, in the people he has helped and inspired, and in the people they, in turn, will help and inspire because they knew him.
It will be a long time before the love he gave and freedom (yes, freedom) he opened people's eyes to is no longer being passed on to others by those he gave it to.
What mother, what father, what sibling would not be proud to have been such an intimate part of a life that has already given so much to so many and will continue to be remembered as they pass that on?
What would he say to you now?
I have no doubt that his passing leaves a void, but there will come a time when that void is filled by the warm memory of his love, of his nature, and the host of memories that brings, and the pain you feel now is replaced with the precious warmth of having known and loved him. That has already begun.
Until the hurt is gone, I pray Almighty God brings you His Peace and Solace.
May Almighty God Bless You all, in the Name of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit, Amen.
I can only imagine at how Our Father in heaven felt giving us his son Jesus. Eternal life is His promise.
God bless you and your family as well.
Oh my Lord, Marie.
I am so sorry! You are in my prayers.
with love,
chickensoup
Prayers up!
As for answers, I sometimes envy those who pass away.
I love life and seek no death wish, but sometimes a harsh truth puts things in perspective:
We live in a world of death.
In blessed America its easy to foget that.
God warned Adam at the beginning.
For all of its beauty and pleasures? This world is cursed and not where we belong.
Your son is now free from all of that. He was born up on angels’ wings.
And one day you will meet him and be happy together for all eternity.
Happier than you can possibly imagine.
My mother was there once, a life-after-death experience.
It’s impossible for her to fully describe, but she tries.
Your son was truly an Angel. You can take comfort in knowing that he is now at Home with the Lord. He is not dead. He is alive in Christ. Believers never die, they just change addresses. We have God’s promise on that. Someday you will be with him again.
You are strong. Time will heal some but not all. Be grateful for the time you had together, he sounds like an exceptional young man. I’m so sorry for your loss. Tom
May God bless you & your family during this terrible time Marie. And may you eventually find some comfort knowing that you have many people in your life who care and are praying for you, including myself. It’s ok to cry & cry & cry. Let it all out. There is healing in crying. God bless.
-R
Oh, Marie. I am so very, very sorry. I am praying for you and your family. Of course you don’t have words now.. you are in shock. Please know you and your family are in our prayers and daily thoughts. God Bless. (((Hugs))) Mom
That is a beautiful outpouring of love. Thank you for sharing. God bless Griffin, your family, and you.
Thank you, especially for sharing your beautiful son’s story with us. Griffin’s words and deeds are not wasted, they will echo through time for eternity in the hearts of everyone he touched, even those reading about your champion son here. He has fought and won, Griffin is a hero and you and your husband can be proud of his victory. His room was ready and the master has called him home, saying. Well done good and faithful servant, You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.
We are crushed to now endure without Griffin’s physical presence but indeed he remains very near to us and longs for us to follow His example to our reward when we shall all at last be reunited in Christ Jesus.
May God bless and keep you and your family in the comfort of His loving embrace.
How can I ever be happy without this remarkable creature in my life?
Your world is dim and his loss is fresh. But Marie, the out pouring of love will embrace you and your family. You are going to hear stories and things that you never heard from people that knew him as well. These stories will
Weave a beautiful quilt of his life for you to always remember.
It hurts, it will always hurt, you will cry. Then one day the tears and the pain
Will take on a different shade of grief. The colors will come back, but they will be different when you think of your boy.
This will be your new journey Marie. God Bless you for bringing this young man to the world. God Bless you as you grieve his passing.
Many prayers for future days ahead.
OH what a wonderful young man he sounds. I so wish that I had known him. You were so lucky to have him even for the short time that God allotted to you. My son is 24 and my heart breaks just imagining what you are going through. I pray that you will heal some with the outpouring of love that you will experience at the wake.
“Truly, truly I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains by itself alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.”
When I brought the main message at the memorial service for our friends daughter (only child) who was one of the 32 murdered in ‘07 at Virginia Tech, this was the verse the Lord gave me.
God’s plan for your son to glorify Him is already beginning “to bear much fruit” in the lives of others in their response - and you are seeing that. God will be greatly glorified through his death - more so than if he had lived. Of course you cannot see this now - but you will.
And as you do, you will be encouraged, and your hearts lifted up.
This has been the experience of our close friends Allen & Tammy whose daughter was murdered at VA Tech.
You asked for help from those who have gone through what you have - so please contact them at the email address I sent you privately - I know they will love talking with you.
A prayer for you and all who have lost their beloved child...the toughest thing a human will ever have to deal with.
Prayers up for you and for your family....
It will be hard, almost impossible at times, but take care of yourself too. Be sure to eat and sleep. Pray. Take a walk, be by yourself. Do something special with your daughter, and your husband. You all matter more to each other now, than before. Take advantage of the shared grief, because over the years, "routine" will creep back in, and you will take things for granted, that shouldn't be taken for granted.
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