Posted on 10/04/2015 6:44:39 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
A new book claims that male office workers are now so afraid of being on the receiving end of a sexual harassment case, they are reluctant to mentor, assist, befriend and even hold open doors for female colleagues.
Crushingly, the book, Sex & The Office suggests men now view such ordinary, decent behaviours as “too risky” – and, in what will be a bitter irony for equality campaigners – claims that, as a direct consequence, women are now failing to advance at work.
This terror of being accused of sexual harassment is now so common it has its own term, “backlash stress”. It sounds like something straight out of a Claims Direct ad – where the only victims are men.
The book’s author, Kim Elsesser, a research scholar at the University of California, argues that a “sex partition” has sprung up, which impedes women from building the vital network of contacts both within the workplace and socially.
And the author should know about tough working environments: she’s a former equities trader at Morgan Stanley.
Tellingly, Elsesser adds that companies themselves are contributing to this mess, as they are now so terrified of legal action they send staff on sexual harassment training courses, and are duty-bound to follow up on any allegation, however minor.
Ludicrously, Elsesser cites examples of men who have been dragged in by their HR departments for simply opening a door for a female colleague or complimenting her on a new suit. “Stories like these spread around workplaces, instilling a fear that innocent remarks will be misinterpreted,” she says.
No s**t, Sherlock!
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You could have gotten the Russian to help in exchange for a fifth of vodka.
That’s the way I proceed.
But it is amazing at how bitchy women can be when you don’t give just the right “friendly” smile. And by that I mean, most of them want us to do or say something that makes them feel good about themselves. When you don’t, they look at you like you’re an ahole.
Too bad, I say. You gals ruined it. Now you only get the cold, professional stare and only for as long as necessary.
I went to a local Republican group meeting to watch the last debate. As we were leaving, a nice young Asian woman thrust a box of materials in my arms and “asked” me to carry it to the car for her. I was happy to help, of course. I guess the nice young lady hasn’t brushed up on American Sexism sufficiently to understand the do’s and don’ts yet.
I worked in an office with a bunch of women in cubicles. They’d talk bath and forth between the walls all day long about their periods, sex and men.
bath=back.
Thanks. That’s nice to hear.
Yikes. I work w a good number of women in Sales Operations and Order Management. Nothing like that in our shop, thank God. Lots of fun, normal bantering.
Rush made a good point this past week about how good Hilary is at acting like a “tough feminist” to advance herself.
And how she turns around and plays “the little girl” role when she gets caught in a scandal.
Just remember how she shrank from Rick Lazio when he approached her podium to sign an agreement during a debate.
It worked! The state-run media attacked him as being some sort of bully.
Agree totally.
Oh, the irony!
Remember how women’s lib and the sexual revolution was supposed to free women to screw to their heart’s content.
Well, all their bitching and moaning have made it so guys won’t touch them with a ten foot pole.
Looks like the old morals of abstinence are coming back, this time not by choice but by law.
Christians are smiling.
Yes——all you said is true. The Marxists have to destroy the Natural Family-—and to do that, they took the mother out of the home-—so babies/toddlers do not bond with parents (they become emotional cripples UNABLE TO TRUST)-—esp. boys who not only need to bond with the mother-—but then bond and identify with the father.
Parents need to embed Virtue by modeling good behavior to their children (now children copy puerile peers)-—people who love them which is what humanizes them. Without that nurture (which mainly comes from the mother) and the stability of having a father provide for the family so the mother can teach and nurtue-—children will not be able to be moral.....or virtuous or self-directed.
When the elites destroyed the Natural Family by evil “law” like “no-fault” divorce which makes the contract meaningless or welfare theft-—to reward vice and punish virtue——they will breed vice.
All Just Laws are to promote public virtue (Montesquieu) otherwise the laws are unconstitutional (unjust laws)-——when children are put into artificial environments it is dehumanizing....and destroys Individualism (identity formation) and creates “socialized” people-—people incapable of thinking outside the box——thinking for oneself.
It’s amazing when someone (feminism) who effectively crapped all over the bed is unhappy about lying in it.
Agreed! I quit closing the door when a woman was in my office in the 1980’s.
I will not go to a ladies home unless some one else is there.
It happened way before then, imo.
And really, I was taught work was work, leave your personal life at the door. Now it’s all about sharing personal life with HR and being facebook friends with coworkers, etc. That’s icky to me.
“Do not attend company-sponsored events outside the workplace” Wouldn’t company sponsored events BE work place events?
I hate all this feel lovey dovey work place crap. I work there. It’s work. Maybe I make friends with one or two people over the course of a few years. But really, other than those people, I don’t want to see my coworkers outside of work. I don’t want them knowing anything about my personal life. They aren’t family or friends.
I guess I was raised in a different time.
A lib female coworker once asked me to move a box of printer paper for her. My reply was that while men we’re stronger women excelled at endurance therefore should could move it one ream at a time.
That was probably innocent and fine but really what guy compliments a woman on her dress/outfit? Who notices that stuff but other women? At work, the two male colleagues complimented another colleague on her outfit...one was gay so there’s that, and the other one was hot for her so there’s that. It’s never crossed my mind to compliment a male coworker on his attire. I don’t even notice it. But, I hear it all the time. It’s like were supposed to notice and say something about what people are wearing at work. I don’t get it. Maybe I’m just old, lol.
Does it rattle you if someone says "Ma'am"?
That one got me on the HR S*** List even after some one pointed out my mother's southern background (which catapulted me from Sexist to Red Neck)
Link please.
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