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Dear strangers: Don’t call me mom
New York Post ^ | May 10, 2015 | Karol Markowicz

Posted on 05/18/2015 1:12:05 PM PDT by presidio9

It started shortly after I had my first child.

I was leaving the building on the Upper West Side where we lived at the time and the doorman said “have a nice day, mom.”

This man was approximately my age, so I was definitively not his mom. I was very new to being anyone’s mom, actually, and hearing that was jarring.

To be fair, I’ve been called variations of “mother” well before I had children. I’ve had “hey mami” shouted at me from many a car window and more than one fine gentleman has asked me “what’s up, ma?” as a type of mating call.

But being referred to as “mom” in the most non-sexualized way imaginable — well, that was new.

-SNIP-

The real issue, though, is the modern-day position of being “mom.”

When strangers start referring to you as “mom,” it’s clear that motherhood has become an all-encompassing identity as never before.

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(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: crank; cranky; crankybroad; feminism; motherhood; nypost; snot; snotty; snottybroad; therealwaronwomen
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To: presidio9

Ok mom.


21 posted on 05/18/2015 1:28:04 PM PDT by DesertRhino (I was standing with a rifle, waiting for soviet paratroopers, but communists just ran for office.)
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To: presidio9

This is what happens when you throw all formality out the door. Mrs. Jones or Mr. Smith is replaced by the doorman calling you “mom” or mere acquaintances assuming its OK to just start calling you by your first name before you indicate its OK. We used to have etiquette for a reason. We are realizing, much to late now that its been mocked and destroyed, that it was a good reason.


22 posted on 05/18/2015 1:28:54 PM PDT by Opinionated Blowhard ("When the people find they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.")
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To: presidio9

Ugh, can someone please put a bag over that?


23 posted on 05/18/2015 1:31:34 PM PDT by 2CAVTrooper (Making harmless people defenseless, does not make dangerous people harmless)
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To: presidio9

Guilty.


24 posted on 05/18/2015 1:36:51 PM PDT by Tudorfly (All things are possible within the will of God.)
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To: presidio9

Just call her ‘Senator’.


25 posted on 05/18/2015 1:42:49 PM PDT by Ken H
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To: Steely Tom

Precisely.


26 posted on 05/18/2015 1:44:37 PM PDT by sauropod (I am His and He is mine.)
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To: presidio9

Is this a form of “Micro-Aggresson”?

If so does it warrant “Macro-Violence” like in Baltimore?

/sarc


27 posted on 05/18/2015 1:44:45 PM PDT by GraceG (Protect the Border from Illegal Aliens, Don't Protect Illegal Alien Boarders...)
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To: presidio9

Lighten up mom.


28 posted on 05/18/2015 1:49:20 PM PDT by cripplecreek ("For by wise guidance you can wage your war")
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To: presidio9

Must be nice not to have any real problems in your life.


29 posted on 05/18/2015 1:52:09 PM PDT by Hugin ("Do yourself a favor--first thing, get a firearm!")
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To: cripplecreek

30 posted on 05/18/2015 1:52:10 PM PDT by presidio9 (Islam is as Islam does.)
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To: presidio9

Bless her heart.


31 posted on 05/18/2015 1:53:46 PM PDT by OLDCU
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To: presidio9

“When strangers start referring to you as “mom,” it’s clear that motherhood has become an all-encompassing identity as never before.”

So what!?

I’t’ll clear up. You’re not going to live for ever.

Enjoy what you have when you have it because the only constant in life is change.


32 posted on 05/18/2015 1:55:57 PM PDT by TalBlack (Evil doesn't have a day job...)
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To: Stormdog
I’m thinking more along the lines of, “Yo, bitch”.

Here I'm trying to be all uptown, and you go make me laugh.

33 posted on 05/18/2015 1:57:31 PM PDT by Talisker (One who commands, must obey.)
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To: presidio9
the doorman said “have a nice day, mom.”

She's so-o-o-o-o judgmental and intolerant of the doorman's culture!

34 posted on 05/18/2015 2:00:07 PM PDT by donna (It is time for Americans to repent.)
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To: presidio9

35 posted on 05/18/2015 2:01:15 PM PDT by SamAdams76
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To: presidio9

And definitely not a MILF.


36 posted on 05/18/2015 2:02:10 PM PDT by DUMBGRUNT (BINGO!)
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To: presidio9

For most of the 20th Century, youth was idolized and adulthood was disparaged. And not just the US, but in much of the world. So much so that adults started to reject the labels of adulthood, pretending to a youthfulness that was no longer theirs.

The deception is comprehensive. Ask someone in their fifties “How old do you feel?”, and they will probably say “Like I did in my 30s or 40s”, or something like that. They cannot imagine that people in their 50s can still feel “good”, because they were long told that “50s is old”.

Be that as it may, many men and women are somewhat frightened of being recognized for their age. And ironically, while rejecting the adult labels, they are also resentful of children’s labels.

In German, “Frau” means something today like “middle aged housewife”, though before it was closer to “woman”, possibly “married woman”. And “Fraulein” used to mean girl children from toddlers to teenagers, but has mutated into something like “older girls with loose morals”. So it is not complementary, either.

You see the problem for the American woman is that she would *love* to be confused with a younger woman. But it’s not happening. Total strangers take one look at her and think “Frau”. And she really resents it.


37 posted on 05/18/2015 2:02:33 PM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy ("Don't compare me to the almighty, compare me to the alternative." -Obama, 09-24-11)
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To: presidio9

I honestly think she misheard “Ma’am”... which she probably doesn’t like, either.


38 posted on 05/18/2015 2:05:43 PM PDT by SpinnerWebb (IN-SAPORIBVS-SICVT-PVLLVM)
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To: presidio9

It seems she also has a problem with Miss and Ma’am.

Basically she doesn’t wish to be referred to as anything apparently.


39 posted on 05/18/2015 2:06:11 PM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (You can't spell Hillary without using the letters L, I, A, & R)
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To: moovova

+1


40 posted on 05/18/2015 2:07:04 PM PDT by mykroar ("Never believe anything until it has been officially denied." - Otto von Bismarck)
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