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Couples Who Share the Housework Are More Likely To Divorce, Study Finds
Telegraph ^ | February 1,2013 | Henry Samuel

Posted on 02/01/2013 6:44:28 PM PST by lbryce

n what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

“What we’ve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn’t necessarily contribute to contentment,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”.

The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.

“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite,” he said.

The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” he went on.

The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves.

“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” he suggested.

“There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.”

But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of “modern” couples rather than the chores they shared.

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. “In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.

(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: domestic
Print this article, keeping it easily accessible so that the next time your spouse makes demands on you to help with the chores around the house, especially when it's football season, just whip it out, show it to her while telling her you're absolutely not going to help out around the house precisely because you care and love her as much as you do, explaining, because having you help around the house will doom your marriage, as the study reports. That should have her never ask you again to take the garbage out or do the dishes.

When I first saw the article I did a search and strangely enough got results of two of the exact same articles dated 9/30/12 and 9/28/12 by the author Henry Samuel.
I decided to post the article anyway as it was five months since it last appeared here at Free Republic. I found it strange that the Telegraph would print the exact same story, by the same author, with an uncanny resemblance to Tom Cruse twice within 2 days and then once again five months later, February 2, 2013 this time the author was attributed to Henry Samuels, Paris.

I've never an article published this way, three times within a five month period. Quite weird as far as I'm concerned.

1 posted on 02/01/2013 6:44:36 PM PST by lbryce
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To: lbryce

Written by a man with a double “male name”...Henry Samuel.

I am waiting for the rebuttal by Lucy Susie.


2 posted on 02/01/2013 6:52:13 PM PST by berdie
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To: lbryce
Makes sense. I'm responsible for the inside of the house (cleaning, painting, laundry, dishes). My husband is responsible for the outside of the house (lawn, repairs, vehicles, etc.).

When I was battling a chronic illness, he carried the weight of the entire house. Every once in a while, he does the dishes or laundry (when I've had a really busy, long week) to help me keep up. Conversely, I'll pull the weeds, mow the lawn, and fix the roof (he hates heights) when he's busy to help him keep up.

Couples run into trouble when there is no clear division of duties, or one is carrying all the weight in the house.

Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.

3 posted on 02/01/2013 6:58:59 PM PST by TheWriterTX (Riding the Long-Wave Economic Contraction, Baby!)
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To: lbryce

Maybe this is the reason why.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/2983613/posts


4 posted on 02/01/2013 6:59:53 PM PST by detective
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To: lbryce
“One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home”

Only if one were a social-science-believing fool.
5 posted on 02/01/2013 7:03:15 PM PST by LearsFool ("Thou shouldst not have been old, till thou hadst been wise.")
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To: LearsFool

And while the west churns out these outlandish social theories in the furtherance of liberal behavior modification and “challenging social norms”, China and India are cranking out mathematicians, physicists, doctors, chemists, and engineers like they’re going out of style.


6 posted on 02/01/2013 7:05:56 PM PST by SpaceBar
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To: lbryce
Although I loathe the concept of unions in society, I think it's great under the roof of a home.

Repair union - moi.

Laundry union - her.

Garbage union - moi.

Shopping union - her.

Mowing union - moi.

and so on... seems balanced to me, and past the 25 year mark

7 posted on 02/01/2013 7:08:36 PM PST by C210N (When people fear government there is tyranny; when government fears people there is liberty)
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To: lbryce

Study reeks to high hell..Commenting as a stay home dad raising two kids.


8 posted on 02/01/2013 7:14:43 PM PST by GSP.FAN (Some days, it's not even worth chewing through the restraints.)
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To: C210N

I was washing the dishes and my 22 year old daughter walked in. She said, “I don’t think I’ve ever seen you wash the dishes before”. I said, “Don’t tell your mom.” We are somewhere in that 25 year range. I would have to check with that union...


9 posted on 02/01/2013 7:15:46 PM PST by bigheadfred
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To: GSP.FAN

Well, you’re BEFORE. Report to us AFTER.


10 posted on 02/01/2013 7:16:16 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: TheWriterTX

Couples run into trouble when there is no clear division of duties, or one is carrying all the weight in the house.

Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.

&&&
This wife agrees with your assessment.

I suspect, also, that a factor in these marriages in which the housework chores are shared is that the wife is a whiner.


11 posted on 02/01/2013 7:18:13 PM PST by Bigg Red (Restore us, O God of hosts; let your face shine, that we may be saved! -Ps80)
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To: SpaceBar

“And while the west churns out these outlandish social theories in the furtherance of liberal behavior modification and “challenging social norms”, China and India are cranking out mathematicians, physicists, doctors, chemists, and engineers like they’re going out of style.”

You’re right. And the shame is that few people see it - including the academic community.


12 posted on 02/01/2013 7:21:28 PM PST by MichaelCorleone (A return to Jesus and prayer in the schools is the only way.)
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To: lbryce

Total BS in my home. I love helping around the house. Been married 28 1/2 years. We started dating 36 years ago.


13 posted on 02/01/2013 7:27:07 PM PST by US_MilitaryRules (Unnngh! To many PDS people!)
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To: Revolting cat!

I’ll get back to you on that but after 25 years of marriage and still doing the nasty i can safely attest that in my case that study sucks.:>)
Maybe we are an aberration?
I hope those social science dudes don’t come after me to prove their theory right.


14 posted on 02/01/2013 7:32:36 PM PST by GSP.FAN (Some days, it's not even worth chewing through the restraints.)
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To: GSP.FAN

NO offense, I hope, I was only kidding, but my own experience (divorce unrelated to homework) attests to the correctness of your observation.


15 posted on 02/01/2013 7:37:11 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: TheWriterTX

“Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.”

Now wait just one cottinpickin minute there Tex. We are complex creatures with deep emotional needs. I think...


16 posted on 02/01/2013 7:43:58 PM PST by SgtHooper (The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But it's still on the list.)
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To: lbryce
Sometimes the Mrs. gets on me about doing more to share the housework, which I will do to a certain extent especially on weekends and vacation days.

But when she gets a little too pressing, I remind her of the yard work, keeping the car running, the finances and all of the other household chores for which I shoulder well over 50% of the responsibility. I then ask her if she'd like to help with my share of the work. She looks at me and says "It is more efficient to do what each of us does the best." I reply "precisely!" and give her a kiss.

Our chances of divorce are probably pretty close to zero.

17 posted on 02/01/2013 7:47:59 PM PST by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: TheWriterTX

I would suspect that your chances of divorce are pretty close to zero as well.


18 posted on 02/01/2013 7:49:31 PM PST by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: lbryce

Articles is BS!

my parents share ALL the duties, and they’ve just celebrated their 48th Anniversary.


19 posted on 02/01/2013 8:04:13 PM PST by Shadowstrike (Be polite, Be professional, but have a plan to kill everyone you meet.)
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To: Vigilanteman

Couples who share the housework are likely to be liberals. Liberals don’t see marriage as a sacred act ordained by God. Liberals are more likely to divorce in the first place.


20 posted on 02/01/2013 8:08:00 PM PST by heye2monn
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To: TheWriterTX

Are you sure you are not my wife? lol She is the same as you.


21 posted on 02/01/2013 8:09:12 PM PST by US_MilitaryRules (Unnngh! To many PDS people!)
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To: lbryce
the next time your spouse makes demands on you to help with the chores around the house

The "demands" are indicative of the attitude. The proper attitude for two people who are married should be that they willingly "pour themselves out" for each other. Marriage is NOT a 50-50 proposition; it is 100-100. Demands for splitting the housework is a symptom that one or both are not willing to give themselves over to each other to make the marriage successful.

22 posted on 02/01/2013 8:14:33 PM PST by RatRipper (Self-centeredness, greed, envy, deceit and lawless corruption has killed this once great nation.)
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To: lbryce

I don’t believe this. FrogDad and I talk while doing dishes and hurry through other chores so we can watch a video together. Neither of us is comfortable sitting while the other works.

It’s been that way all through our marriage when we’ve both worked outside the house.

And that’s 43 years, tomorrow.


23 posted on 02/01/2013 8:57:23 PM PST by FrogMom (Chicken Little is coming, and he's right!)
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To: lbryce
Good thing I make my husband do everything! /s
24 posted on 02/01/2013 9:05:31 PM PST by MacMattico
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To: lbryce

It’s pretty much worked for me and hubby—he’s always helped out at home—both in helping with our 5 kids when they were little, and in giving me a hand with the housework.

But whadda I know—it’s only lasted for 51 years and counting!


25 posted on 02/01/2013 9:07:49 PM PST by basil (basil)
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To: lbryce

I am sure the muslim couples in england are less likely to share housework and less likely to divorce.


26 posted on 02/01/2013 9:11:26 PM PST by allmendream (Tea Party did not send GOP to D.C. to negotiate the terms of our surrender to socialism)
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To: TheWriterTX

TheWriterTX: “Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty. Cook for them, make love to them, give them a little time everyday to relax and unwind, and they are happy to do whatever you ask. Not complicated.”

That really is pretty much it. It comes down to three things: food, fun (sex), and football (time to sit back, relax, and escape from the world for a bit).


27 posted on 02/01/2013 9:30:34 PM PST by CitizenUSA (Why celebrate evil? Evil is easy. Good is the goal worth striving for.)
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To: CitizenUSA
Boy, have you got it all wrong! HERE!
28 posted on 02/01/2013 9:33:35 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: TheWriterTX

Agreed. I think another aspect to this too is that if a husband is splitting the chores, it is likely the wife has an equally demanding job and pay which can make exiting the marriage a mich more viable scenario.


29 posted on 02/01/2013 9:44:01 PM PST by riri (Plannedopolis-look it up. It's how the elites plan for US to live.)
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To: C210N

I really think a clear division of labor works best. We’ve avoided arguments by not intruding into the other’s areas of responsibility. We might take on some additional tasks if the other is sick, but we normally stick to our own things. I think that works because we don’t tell each other what to do. If we have different standards of how we do things, for example, we avoid conflict by letting each person run their areas by their own standards.

That said, I really think couples should do whatever works for them, keeping in mind that divorce is a sin. It’s wrong. Stay together, find what works, and make it last. Divorce isn’t always unavoidable, especially when one spouse is unwilling to work for the marriage or unfaithful (although many marriages have survived that sin, too). It doesn’t matter what other people think, so long as a couple figures out what works for them and sticks to it. Result: a better world for all of us.


30 posted on 02/01/2013 9:47:28 PM PST by CitizenUSA (Why celebrate evil? Evil is easy. Good is the goal worth striving for.)
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To: basil

The study only showed the divorce rate is much higher for couples where the housework is shared. That doesn’t mean there aren’t many successful marriages like your own.

I think part of the problem is people want to judge other marriages by their own standards. I know of marriages where the man is a total wimp. I mean, the guys are bossed constantly. That disgusts me, but some of those marriages have lasted as long as mine.

I also know marriages where the man does nothing, not even working on cars or doing the lawn. Those marriages also upset me. I wonder, “How can she put up with such a scumbag?” Nevertheless, some of those marriages have also endured for decades, and the couples seem happy with it.

Whatever works is best, and it’s really no one else’s business but your own.


31 posted on 02/01/2013 9:59:11 PM PST by CitizenUSA (Why celebrate evil? Evil is easy. Good is the goal worth striving for.)
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To: lbryce

BS.

Life is pretty happy in our house for the sharring.

I buy the groceries, she cooks, I clean the dishes. seems fair to me and I don’t have to eat Top Ramen very often....even though I like it.

Still, when it comes to cleaning the house we often break it up into our respective AoR’s.

No one cleans my office but me or does my laundry. Can’t stand people in my stuff.

For her AO the house cleaner does all that and the common areas.

Works for us. Cept when she tries to drag me into reorganizing her stoopit closet. 400 sq feet of nightmare that makes no sense, as opposed to my closets where everything is ordered for casual, dress and don’t give a Shiite. Hell, I got numbers on blue socks and black socks so I can take them out of the laundry and pair them back up. Even then, black socks are in one drawer and blue in another.

The more than 200 pair of shoes are in their boxes with pics on the front so I can find what I’m looking for.

I must have a gay gene....NOT....Evuh.

Love hips, lips and t**s....

My thing.


32 posted on 02/01/2013 10:58:48 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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To: TheWriterTX

I tell you I’ve had an interesting experience this last year.

I tore my rotation cuff sumpin ugly and haven’t had to do much I. The way of dishes this past six months.

Annoying as he’ll, as I like doing the dishes and keeping the kitchen clean to my standard.

As it is, I’m probably going to have to spend a grand on New bowls for the burners. They haven’t been kept clean the way I like and Viking ain’t cheap.

Damn bowels and burner plates ain’t in in good shape.

Sure enough, I’ll replace them and learn we are moving.

Hope not. luv this home and would rather redo to whole kitchen.

There goes 60 large....or more.


33 posted on 02/01/2013 11:06:31 PM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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To: lbryce

I’ll have to tell my bride of 48 years that we are headed for divorce. We’ve ALWAYS shared the workload. Of course, in raising nine kids, EVERYBODY shares the workload.


34 posted on 02/01/2013 11:22:22 PM PST by NTHockey (Rules of engagement #1: Take no prisoners)
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To: Vendome
I tore my rotation cuff sumpin ugly...

What have you had to do to try to heal it?

35 posted on 02/02/2013 12:55:47 AM PST by beaversmom
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To: Revolting cat!

None taken.These studies usually prove what the person doing the study believes.So many variables to the breakdown of a marriage to simplify it to housework.


36 posted on 02/02/2013 9:20:49 AM PST by GSP.FAN (Some days, it's not even worth chewing through the restraints.)
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To: Vendome

“Damn bowels and burner plates ain’t in in good shape.”

You should go see a gastrointestinal specialist.


37 posted on 02/02/2013 9:36:15 AM PST by Rebelbase ( .223, .224, whatever it takes....)
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To: beaversmom

Had surgery 5 months ago. just takes time.


38 posted on 02/02/2013 9:53:05 AM PST by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously, you won't live through it anyway)
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To: TheWriterTX
Men are very easy creatures to please, in all honesty.

"I want a beer, and I want to see sumthin' naked." - Jeff Foxworthy

39 posted on 02/02/2013 9:56:33 AM PST by dfwgator
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To: lbryce

How about this. Marriages with beta male liberals are more likely to share housework (just guessing), and all liberals are likely to value personal fulfillment over commitment. Women married to liberal beta males are more likely to end up discontented AND philosophically inclined to leave if discontented.

Or, there’s always someone who loves the more in a relationship, and if it is the man, he is likely to do housework in an attempt to placate his wife who is the less enamored. Ultimately, that dynamic may wear on both of them.


40 posted on 02/02/2013 10:00:32 AM PST by 9YearLurker
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To: GSP.FAN; a fool in paradise; Slings and Arrows
THIS JUST IN:

A study published today by a team of the scientists at the University of Camembert has conclusively determined that 60% of all university scientific studies reach patently false conclusions.

41 posted on 02/02/2013 3:54:06 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: Revolting cat!; a fool in paradise; Slings and Arrows

42 posted on 02/02/2013 7:03:35 PM PST by GSP.FAN (Some days, it's not even worth chewing through the restraints.)
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To: lbryce

Me: full time job and side jobs
Him: full time job and sporadic side jobs
Me: handles finances/ pays 95% of bills
Him: pays massive child support to ex wife
Me: Laundry
Him: remodeling/fixing
Me: helper for remodeling/fixing
Him: cooks 25% of the time
Me: gardening, canning, sewing, lawn mowing, weeding
Him: sweeps and washes windows 25% of the time
Me: household shopping/all other household chores
Him: beer shopping
Me: taxes, paralegal for previously enjoyed family issues, secretary
Me: general pet care
Him: holds pets while I clip their nails
Me: brings in wood for woodstove (only source of heat)
Him: cuts down trees
Both: split and stack trees
I get free car maintenance through his work


43 posted on 02/05/2013 11:21:20 AM PST by AbolishCSEU (Percentage of Income in CS is inversely proportionate to Mother's parenting of children)
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To: lbryce

ROFLOL - just heard a promo on a report that says less housework might be leading to fatter women.


44 posted on 03/01/2013 6:24:45 AM PST by Gene Eric (The Palin Doctrine.)
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