[C210N]

Although I loathe the concept of unions in society, I think it's great under the roof of a home.

Repair union - moi.

Laundry union - her.

Garbage union - moi.

Shopping union - her.

Mowing union - moi.

and so on... seems balanced to me, and past the 25 year mark

[bigheadfred]

I was washing the dishes and my 22 year old daughter walked in. She said, “I don’t think I’ve ever seen you wash the dishes before”. I said, “Don’t tell your mom.” We are somewhere in that 25 year range. I would have to check with that union...

[CitizenUSA]

I really think a clear division of labor works best. We’ve avoided arguments by not intruding into the other’s areas of responsibility. We might take on some additional tasks if the other is sick, but we normally stick to our own things. I think that works because we don’t tell each other what to do. If we have different standards of how we do things, for example, we avoid conflict by letting each person run their areas by their own standards.

That said, I really think couples should do whatever works for them, keeping in mind that divorce is a sin. It’s wrong. Stay together, find what works, and make it last. Divorce isn’t always unavoidable, especially when one spouse is unwilling to work for the marriage or unfaithful (although many marriages have survived that sin, too). It doesn’t matter what other people think, so long as a couple figures out what works for them and sticks to it. Result: a better world for all of us.