Posted on 12/16/2012 10:32:32 AM PST by jimbo123
Edited on 12/16/2012 11:24:04 AM PST by Admin Moderator. [history]
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The dictionary now has a revision
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The way I remember it was that during the '80s the "advocates for the institutionalized" found a couple of people who had been institutionalized for decades but were perfectly normal. They then made (and got away with) the assertion that "Since that person was wrongly institutionalized, nobody should be institutionalized".
And that's when the "homelessness" problem really picked-up, too.
For those interested, here is yesterday’s FR posting of this blog piece:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-bloggers/2969168/posts
My husband and I raised two special needs children with mental health issues. We did the best that we could with what we knew at the time. I’m sure we could have done a better job. They are doing well now thank the Lord. But remember the phrase, “there but for the grace of God go I” before you start analyzing the childhood and judging the parents.
This story sure went viral fast. Kind of curious. She’s the Sandra Fluke of the story.
Also, does the child have no father?
In this story ... why does she sound like “Julia” the composite government female citizen?
The conversation of the people is for government response: either ‘gun control’ or ‘diagnose’ mental illness. Maybe if we’re really lucky congress will pass a law that says that no gun will be permitted in any home where a person has been treated for a mental illness - including but not limited to common ailments from which people recover. That ought to make it illegal to own a gun in just about every home in America. They’ll use the mental health issue to do an end around the gun laws.
“My husband and I raised two special needs children with mental health issues.”
I am not a judgmental person, and that is precisely why I wrote what I wrote. I admire that you and your husband worked hard as parents, and I embrace the very accurate sentiment that ‘but for the grace of God there go I’. That said, there are plenty out there who are way too quick to blame each child for the problems that they have in life - as though parenting has no role. Nothing could be further from the truth. Parenting has a huge role, and there are many, many children who never get what they deserve and need from their parents. This is especially problematic in our ‘me first’ narcissistic society. There are also parents who are ‘crazy making’ parents. These are the people who give outward appearances that they are loving and nurturing, but who are in reality extremely damaging parents - and also tell their children that all their problems and unhappiness, essentially everything, is their own fault. If as a parent you put your children before yourself, and give your best, but make mistakes (as we all do), that is acceptable as part of life. But if you can never admit you are wrong, and have no appreciation for the unique individuals your children are, each with their own needs and dreams, then you can be a very big negative in their lives.
I make tons of mistakes, and I pray that I don’t make really hurtful big ones.
And perhaps you have not read RD Laing, et al.
Jedidiah,
What of the argument that the mother had no right to inflict her genetically deficient son on the rest of the family, much less the community. While we are our brother’s keeper, the balancing of rights which is our inescapable responsibility as a consequence of our Free Will, to endlessly try to do the impossible (cure the crazy) and side effects be damned - that may be why the Shooter was still free.
Ironically, the loving mother was the first to be killed.
Read the mom’s first ever blog post and you’ll see she’s the main reason he’s behaving as he has been. She’s provided him with a dysfunctional household and series of personal relationships.
She was married and stabile but then had a “fun” bout of “insanity” as she put it during which she “found herself.” She admits back then that it was hard on her kids, yet still wonders why her son is having issues. This lead to a contentious divorce. She’s a kook.
I read something a few years ago, and I wish I could remember where, about the costs to society of deinstitutionalization: it took into account emergency room, police and sanitation costs - and also lost wages for the injuries, deaths and funeral expenses caused by the free-roaming mentally ill. It was staggering.
THIS is what/where the public focus should be, in the aftermath of the CT tragedy. If you happen to recall, or come across the report, please post. Thanks.
I’m not sure what you mean by the mother “inflicting” the son on the rest of the family and the community.
Are you suggesting she lock him in the attic?
She gave birth to him and has responsibility for him, under law. Unfortunately, also under law, she has few options. She can’t just give him away. Kicking him to the street would be even more of an “infliction.”
There are few options in our current mental health system. Involuntary commitments last only until the patient is deemed to be safe to release, which is generally a matter of days.
What is your solution?
>> “I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me.’’
Where is his father?
Women suck at raising animals.
Terrible story! Yes, children can be evil. I suppose it’s somewhat rare but I’ve met these kinds of kids myself.
I’ve read several articles about Lanza’s mother and I can’t believe how over the top and disgusting most of the comments have been about her........
Maybe, maybe not. I suspect this child's problem isn't due to lack of spankings, but rather a problem with the hard wiring in his brain.......
Do you think a spanking given to a child diagnosed with tourettes following each of his uncontrolled vocal outbursts could cure him? Not likely
We know as much about how the brain actually works as we do about the universe.........and that ain't very much.
do you remember the 12 yo boy who killed the 6 yo neighbor girl a few years ago
he claimed they were wrestling
she was a tiny girl he was a big kid...
at the time people said 12 yos are too young to be murderers, plot a murder or evil etc
from my own experience I knew that was wrong
I believed he could and would deliberately kill with no mercy...
Just like that girl did to my little daughter...
BTW my daughter is now in her 30s and married with beautiful children of her own...
Happy ending but it might so easily have not been...
Re: that young lady who was into Satanism:
“No two people are as different from one another as the same person can be from himself at different times”.
-—La Rouchefocauld, hundreds of years ago.
That was a black kid as I remember, right? He was really big for his age.
That’s exactly her point. Until he does something arrest-worthy, she has nowhere to send him. As I read this article, she’s basically begging for ideas.
They are not learning from each other. They are learning from a family narrative that existed before they were born.
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