Posted on 08/30/2010 2:37:01 AM PDT by RogerFGay
A series of high-profile cases of lesbian-perpetrated domestic violence has sent shock-waves through Massachusetts communities in recent months:
1. On February 16, a Suffolk Superior Court jury convicted Nicole Chuminski on two counts of second-degree murder, following a fire that killed the two daughters of her lover Anna Reisopoulos. During a heated argument between the two, Chuminski reportedly fell into a fit of rage. A few hours later Chuminski returned to her partner’s apartment and hurled an acetone-laden firebomb into the front door.
Sophia and Acia, ages 2 and 14, were burned beyond recognition, so dental records were needed for positive identification.
2. On March 29 Annamarie Rintala of Granby, Mass. was found dead by strangulation in the basement of the house she shared with her domestic partner Cara. Cara had been previously charged with domestic violence after she struck Annamarie in the back of the head with a closed fist.
3. Eunice Field of Brockton, Mass. found herself on the losing end of a bitter ménage à trois. So on August 9 she marched to the apartment of Lorraine Wachsman. There she grabbed a serrated knife and stabbed Wachsman in the back and neck. Dispelling any doubt about her intentions, she then penned a note admitting she had killed Waschsman “for taking away the love of my life.”
Ms. Field is now being held without bail pending a September 3 court appearance.
Experts on lesbian domestic violence were shocked, but honestly not surprised by these incidents. Last November a report by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs reported a 125% increase in domestic violence fatalities in lesbian and gay couples around the country during the prior year. According to Beth Leventhal of The Network/La Red of Boston, “partner abuse in LGBT communities can be just as lethal as that in heterosexual communities.”
Ms. Leventhal’s commentary actually understates the extent of the problem. Earlier this year the UCLA Center for Health Policy Research published the results of a survey of over 51,000 California adults . The UCLA study found 28% of persons in lesbian/gay relationships had experienced intimate partner violence, compared to 17% of persons in heterosexual relationships.
It’s also believed that lesbians are more likely to engage in partner violence than gay men. According to the Boston Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project, one in three homosexual women experience partner aggression, compared to only one in four homosexual men. Kaitlin Nichols of The Network/La Red notes, “The myth of women’s communities as safe communities has prevented many women from reaching out for support. If they have shared what is happening, they are met with disbelief from their community.”
And why are lesbians more likely to abuse?
According to Nomi Porat, an abuse-prevention expert, the reason is poor limit-setting: “An issue common to women, particularly battered women, is the fear of demanding physical and emotional boundaries. In part, battered lesbians are afraid their lovers will leave or become more violent if any limitations are set in the relationship.”
A nearly impenetrable double wall serves to keep lesbian battering tucked away in the proverbial closet. The first wall is the stigmatization invoked by lesbians themselves who believe in a sort of same-sex utopia, the feminist belief that maintains female-female relationships are inherently more peaceful, gentle, and “pure,” compared to male-female relationships.
In Naming the Violence: Speaking out About Lesbian Battering, Barbara Hart maintains that female batterers should be subjected to a form of shunning by the lesbian community: “one of the consequences of [female batterers’] violence is that they may have to limit any contact with the person they assaulted/abused. This may mean that the batterer cannot attend public gatherings or movement meetings.”
The second wall is the broader domestic violence industry that maintains a cult-like belief in the notion of patriarchal sexism, the theory that men abuse their wives due to an innate and irrepressible urge to oppress women. So every time a woman pummels, rapes, or otherwise abuses her female partner, the patriarchal dominance theory takes a body-blow.
These ideological blinders serve to justify shelters policies that turn away of needy women. According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, the problem of abuse shelters that discriminate on the basis of gender identity is widespread.
Intimate partner aggression is not a problem limited to any particular sex, or gender identity, or economic group. Indeed, research shows women are at least as likely as men to engage in partner abuse.When the Sisterhood gets over its denial of the truth, we’ll stop seeing so many women and men victimized by domestic violence.
Voodoo, I’ve been reading your posts and couldn’t agree more with you! I’m a 30 year old man who was raised by a single mother and a cackling gaggle of doting aunts and grandmothers. I was taught reverence and respect for women, but over the years, I’ve learned my own “maleness” and established a pro-men mindset in light of the myriad years taught that men were inutile grunts.
I’m in a relationship now with a woman who was raised much the same way, but for women, the lack of a male figurehead during the formative years leads them to look for strong men in the image of the men they knew in their lives. I apparently fit the bill, and I too run the house finances, investments, mortgage, and utility bills. While I’ve been known to cook up a mean stir fry or pick up a sponge to clean the dishes or the bathrooms, she generally handles those tasks.
Men have become emasculated and feminized, and I’m very tired of the same old canard being trotted out in all of the anti-male sitcoms and cable TV shows. If we ever turn back to the understanding that men and women are genetically and emotionally different, we will then get back to the adults running the country’s business instead of these metrosexual Congressmen and their cackling power-hungry female counterparts.
in the media men are portrayed as stupid. they do men as crying and what a woman wants, on AD’s it is always a man who is stupid.
It’s high time men actually stopped being so girlie and pansies
I agree manc. As a matter of fact, my fiancee and I discuss this often. Men are always portrayed as violent misogynists in the media. Hell, the “criminals” portrayed in most security system commercials are white men. There’s no truth in “advertising” anymore.
LOL same here
My wife and I see it every day and we make comments about it.
Prime example
Look at progressive insurance where they have the mothers boy saying what if mother will not let me drive .
Not going to go through all of them as I’m sure you see as many as we do but the media and these lefty fruits have made such wussies they don’t even keep score at some soccer games now.
I saw the same thing a few weekends ago at my little cousin’s birthday party. Here were a bunch of screaming 8 - 10 year-olds playing party games, but the parents would never call a “winner” in any of the games. Everyone “won” in the games even if one team was very obviously the winner over the other. It’s sad, really. Kids don’t learn anything anymore because of this mindset. Everyone’s equal according to how those kids are taught in the schools and now, unfortunately, in the homes.
BTW...I'm still not convinced those are women in that photo. They look like men, with mullets and makeup--never a good combination.
Judging by the looks of most lesbians, they are “lesbian by default.”
I think it's listening to the Indigo Girls.
But if you look outside of the comedy genre, you'll find many serious and normal portrayals of both genders.
No doubt!
It is high time for those idiots who say “well I have a homosexual friend and they are nice” need to go to their parades like the folsom fair and see what they really are like when they are with their friends,
My son’s wife tried that crap too and he was too smart for her.
let put it this way, All homosexuals need mental help and it is nothing normal or natural in what the do and anyone who stands with their agenda by saying “well I know one and they are nice “are living in la la land
so no it is not misguided at all.
To homosexuals it is all about sex and the way they get off sexually,
Woman want a strong male figure as a partner. the differences between the sexes goes much deeper than the physical and extends right down to the genetics. Men and woman look different, are built different and have different emotions because they ARE different and are meant to do different things.
The cave man hunted and killed the beast which fed the family while the woman cleaned the cave, cooked and look after the children. It is no different today, or it shouldn’t be. The Jungles have become the office place and the caves have become the homes we live in. The food is brought home by the man in the form of a paycheck and the woman tasked with buying the food, cooking it and seeing to the children. It is the natural order and the women’s libbers have screwed it all up badly. To be fair it couldn’t have happened without the pussification of the male being well on it’s way before.
Dude, there are some people in the word who clearly were born gay. I know a few. None of them are lesbians, I must note.
And I don’t live in La-La land, I oppose gay marriage, and think gays should be kept out of the military.
If you were really ugly, would you start being attracted by men? I wouldn’t.
I always thought the blond looked like Howard the Duck.
Is it just me, or does the blonde with the flattop look like Al Franken?
Uh, I hate to break it to you, but the blonde in the photograph is Al Franken.
Best,
Chris
dude, dude,
right so you say they are born a homosexual and BTW they are not gay they hijacked that word.
So why has there never been a homosexual gene found then if they were born homosexuals like you say?
and yes any0one saying they are OK and they know them is living in la la land,.
Go tot heir homo parades do you?
Ever been to the folsom fair or public bathrooms, or dog parks, or public parks or hiking trails etc?
hell hath no fury...
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