Well, I’m a complete failure in that regard but, the use if the scripture is one of controlling one’s thoughts and I find it difficult to believe God wouldn’t want us to be attracted to each other
The terms of self temperance and moderated are use in absolute terms and I can’t see hiw that is possible.
No man is going to live each moment like that. It isn’t possible.
It is possible not to act on those thoughts but, that’s as far as I can get...