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Study: 'Toxic Perfectionism' Major Part of LDS Women's Depression
KSL.com ^ | Feb. 1, 2013 | KSL.com

Posted on 02/14/2013 3:33:33 PM PST by fattigermaster

OREM —Striving for perfection may be driving some female members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to depression, one researcher says.

Utah Valley University professor Kris Doty looked at depression among LDS women, finding that "toxic perfectionism" was one major factor of depression reported by the group. The other four factors, Doty found, were genetics, history of abuse, family relationships and feeling judged by others.

Over a one-year period, Doty and her colleagues looked at clinically diagnosed depressed women who identified as LDS. Seven of the women were using multiple medications to treat their depression, 19 were on only one medication and 10 had participated in therapy. Women in the study said the church's teachings about perfection led to painful misinterpretations wherein many women believed they could not make mistakes. This belief, Doty said, caused them to "become hyper-competitive and anxious."

At a symposium on the topic Thursday, study participants said church leaders were reminding women —especially mothers —that they are not required to be perfect.


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KEYWORDS: inman; lds; mentalhealth; mormon
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To: ravenwolf
the only thing i am doing is to say that it is hypocritical for one false religion to call an other one false.

Joseph Smith didn't have a problem calling all religions false, except the one he invented of course.

41 posted on 02/16/2013 9:36:10 AM PST by Graybeard58 (_.. ._. .. _. _._ __ ___ ._. . ___ ..._ ._ ._.. _ .. _. .)
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To: ravenwolf

Or was that your point?


42 posted on 02/16/2013 9:37:06 AM PST by Graybeard58 (_.. ._. .. _. _._ __ ___ ._. . ___ ..._ ._ ._.. _ .. _. .)
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To: polkajello

I like spunky women


43 posted on 02/16/2013 10:17:03 AM PST by AppyPappy (If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
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To: Luna

I’m a Mormon, have been my whole life. I have NEVER understood this kind of depression and guilt among LDS women. I know it exists among a lot of women of my faith.


You can see that it exists in your own faith, but not being too familiar with other faiths you can not see similar or other problems there.

At the same time if you think that this is really a problem you should figure out if the problem is just with the attitude of the average woman in todays world or if the problem is the Church.

I was going to suggest that you read and reread every word of what Jesus said and dwell on it and to even follow the path to the cross where he was slain as the lamb of God and see how much of it you can recognize in your Church.

But i see you have read about Jesus and as you say he is what this is all about to begin with.


44 posted on 02/16/2013 10:20:00 AM PST by ravenwolf
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To: Graybeard58

Joseph Smith didn’t have a problem calling all religions false, except the one he invented of course.


You don,t get no argument on that.


45 posted on 02/16/2013 10:26:31 AM PST by ravenwolf
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To: Graybeard58

Or was that your point?


The question is, do i believe Joesph Smith to have been a false Prophet? exactly.


46 posted on 02/16/2013 10:31:38 AM PST by ravenwolf
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To: ravenwolf; Graybeard58
If Joseph Smith were living in America today, he would not feel any need to be a Mormon. Given current social mores, there is no longer any need to create a whole new religion just to provide a religious cover for sexual perversion.

If Joseph Smith were alive today, he would probably get involved in Scientology or Amway,

47 posted on 02/16/2013 10:36:04 AM PST by Tau Food (Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.)
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To: ravenwolf

No need to guess.

YOU SAID: doing every thing they can to make the Mormon Women feel inferior to other people

I SAID: Finally, you understand some of momronism’s teachings.


48 posted on 02/16/2013 10:38:28 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: AppyPappy

Good thing Joseph Smith married Emma and not Jodi.


49 posted on 02/16/2013 10:40:22 AM PST by polkajello
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To: Tau Food

Wouldn’t Amway bring him into the mormon fold?


50 posted on 02/16/2013 10:42:48 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: ravenwolf

YOU SAID: The question is, do i believe Joesph Smith to have been a false Prophet? exactly.

I SAY: Then why are you in such great angst over people who call him out? Why does it appear to cause you great discomfort for the teachings of mormonism, which are founded by Smith to be exposed?

BEFORE YOU SAY: but every other religion is the same way.

I SAY: Because we are called to call out false teachings and prophets. If you had read the Bible you would know this.


51 posted on 02/16/2013 10:46:50 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: svcw
Smith would have alternatives.
52 posted on 02/16/2013 10:48:34 AM PST by Tau Food (Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.)
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To: Tau Food

Yea, that was snarky of me. I think I read that Amway is really a big deal in the mormon community. I know many of my mormon family that sells it. Somewhere a million years ago, I thought I read that it was started by mormons and primarily promoted by mormons, but hey may its Shackly(sp) I am thinking of.


53 posted on 02/16/2013 11:06:29 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: svcw
I don't know much about the history of Amway or Melaleuca, but those kind of multi-level marketing schemes seem to attract real go-getters. I think Joseph Smith had to be pretty ambitious.

Married men who desire multiple sexual partners are not rare. But, how many of them have the audacity to create a whole new religion just so that they can justify their desires?

Joe had to be a very special kind of guy.

54 posted on 02/16/2013 11:11:49 AM PST by Tau Food (Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.)
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To: Tau Food

As you present Smith, I would agree.
He convinced married men to surrender their wives and in many cases their daughters as well to him for what essential were one night stands.
I wonder what kids of diet he had.
I know he made his own liqueur and smoked cigars, but other than that I do not know.
(The whole coffee and food issues thing came way later, never for him of course)


55 posted on 02/16/2013 11:21:04 AM PST by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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To: colorcountry

Really enjoyed your comments and homepage. My sister lives in AZ and LDS stuff comes up off and on but I know very little in that regard.

kg/nancy


56 posted on 02/16/2013 11:43:03 AM PST by krunkygirl (force multiplier in effect...)
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To: ravenwolf
More bull manure.

I am amazed at the well thought out logic of your rebuttal.

57 posted on 02/16/2013 11:47:16 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Vendome

I doubt if they are trying so hard to be seen ‘good’ in GOD’s eyes; but in their HUSBAND’s - who have the AWESOME power of calling them out or not!


58 posted on 02/16/2013 11:48:57 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: Luna
I think they forget those simple words of John 3:16.

There seems to be a LOT of simple words from history that are forgotten:

"Now if any of you will deny the plurality of wives, and continue to do so, I promise that you will be damned;

and I will go still further and say, take this revelation, or any other revelation that the Lord has given,

and deny it in your feelings, and I promise that you will be damned.

Brigham Young - JoD 3:266 (July 14, 1855)


59 posted on 02/16/2013 11:51:10 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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To: aMorePerfectUnion
Dang!

All those expectations and STILL some women want to be missionaires!?


The Rules

  1. Learn and obey all missionary rules.
  2. Keep your thoughts, words, and actions in harmony with the gospel message.
  3. Read only books, magazines, and other material authorized by the Church.
  4. Don't debate or argue.
  5. Center your mind on your mission.
  6. Dress conservatively. Elders: white shirts, conservative ties, and business suits. Sisters: conservative colors and skirts that cover your knees. No floor-length skirts or dresses.
  7. Cut your hair regularly.
  8. Keep your hair clean and neatly combed at all times in the approved style.
  9. Be neat and clean.
  10. Bathe frequently.
  11. Use deodorant.
  12. Polish your shoes.
  13. Iron your shirt and business suit.
  14. Arise at 6:30 A.M.
  15. Study for 2 hours every morning.
  16. Proselytize for 10 hours between 9:30 A.M. and 9:30 P.M.
  17. Turn off your lights at 10:30 P.M.
  18. Exercise regularly.
  19. Write in your journal regularly.
  20. Follow the "Missionary Gospel Study Program" (31157) for your personal study.
  21. Regularly study the Missionary Guide and the Discussions.
  22. Attend Sunday priesthood or Relief Society meetings, Sunday School, and sacrament meeting.
  23. Attend the general session of Stake Conference.
  24. Attend general conference broadcasts if available.
  25. Avoid all other church meetings unless you have a special assignment or are brining an investigator.
  26. Proselytize as much as possible on weekends and holidays because this is when you'll find people home.
  27. End your preparation day at 6:00 P.M. and proselytize from 6:00 P.M. to 9:30 P.M.
  28. Wear your missionary uniform in public on preparation day while not engaged in recreational activities.
  29. Arise at 6:30 on preparation day and study for 2 hours from the approved books.
  30. Take care of your physical preparation for the week on preparation day: wash your clothes, clean your apartment, wash your car, get your haircut, and shop for groceries.
  31. Write to your parents every week on preparation day.
  32. Write less frequently to your siblings, friends, and acquaintances.
  33. Don't communicate with any friends or acquaintances that are within or close to your mission boundaries, except as a part of official mission business.
  34. Plan safe, wholesome, and uplifting activities for preparation day.
  35. Stay with your companion during all activities.
  36. Do not go on road trips.
  37. Do not leave your assigned area without permission
  38. Do not watch television.
  39. Do not view unauthorized videocassettes.
  40. Do not listen to the radio.
  41. Do not listen to unauthorized audiocassettes or CD’s.
  42. Do not participate in musical groups.
  43. Do not participate in athletic teams.
  44. Do not sponsor athletic teams.
  45. Do not engage in contact sports.
  46. Do not engage in water sports.
  47. Do not engage in winter sports.
  48. Do not engage in motorcycling.
  49. Do not engage in horseback riding.
  50. Do not engage in mountain climbing.
  51. Do not embark on a private boat.
  52. Do not embark in a private airplane.
  53. Do not handle firearms.
  54. Do not handle explosives.
  55. Do not swim.
  56. Do not play full court basketball.
  57. Do not play basketball in leagues.
  58. Do not play basketball in tournaments.
  59. You may play half-court basketball.
  60. Never be alone.
  61. Seek advice from your mission president if your companion is "having difficulties".
  62. Be loyal to your companion.
  63. Ask your mission president for help if your companion doesn’t obey the rules.
  64. Pray with your companion every day.
  65. Study with your companion every day.
  66. Plan your work with your companion every day.
  67. Take time at least once a week for companionship inventory.
  68. Seek to be one in spirit and purpose and help each other succeed.
  69. Always address your companion as Elder or Sister.
  70. Sleep in the same bedroom as your companion.
  71. Do not sleep in the same bed as your companion.
  72. Do not arise before your companion.
  73. Do not retire after your companion. (apparently, being together is more important than getting the correct amount of sleep that your unique body requires.)
  74. Frequently study with your companion the Missionary Guide section on companions.
  75. Never be alone with anyone of the opposite sex.
  76. Never associate inappropriately with anyone of the opposite sex (conversely, they don't mention whether or not it is against the rules to associate inappropriately with anyone of the same sex).
  77. Do not flirt.
  78. Do not date.
  79. Do not communicate via phone or letter with anyone of the opposite sex living within or near mission boundaries.
  80. Do not visit a single or divorced person of the opposite sex unless accompanied by a couple or another adult member of your sex.
  81. Try to teach single investigators in a member’s home or have missionaries of the same sex teach them.
  82. Always follow the above rules, even if the situation seems harmless.
  83. Use the commitment pattern to get referrals from members.
  84. Keep your dinner visits with member briefs and during the customary dinner hour in the area.
  85. Remember to say thank you to those who feed you.
  86. Visit members and nonmembers only at appropriate times.
  87. Do not counsel or give medical treatment.
  88. Do not stay in the homes of people when they are on vacation.
  89. Only write letters to family members and friends at home.
  90. Do not telephone parents
  91. Do not telephone relatives.
  92. Do not telephone friends.
  93. Do not telephone girlfriends.
  94. Contact your mission president in case of an emergency.
  95. Take problems and questions to your mission president.
  96. Do not write to the President of the Church or to other General Authorities. Letters from missionaries to General Authorities are referred back to the mission president
  97. Respect the customs, traditions, and property of the people who you are trying to convert.
  98. Obey all mission rules.
  99. Obey the laws of the land.
  100. Do not get involved in politics.
  101. Do not get involved in commercial activities.
  102. Do not give any information about the area.
  103. Respect the customs and cultures of those who you are trying to convert to your own customs and culture.
  104. Respect the beliefs, practices, and sites of other religions.
  105. Do not say or write anything bad about the political and cultural circumstances where you serve.
  106. Do not become involved in adoption proceedings.
  107. Do not suggest or encourage emigration. (This rule is a bit ironic, given the now-defunct doctrine of gathering the believers to Zion)
  108. Be courteous.
  109. Provide community service.
  110. Do not provide community service that isn’t approved by your mission president.
  111. Do not provide more than 4 hours a week of community service.
  112. Do not provide community service during the evening, weekend or holidays—those are peek proselytizing times.
  113. Your mission president must approve your housing.
  114. Keep your housing unit clean.
  115. Do not live with single or divorced people of the opposite sex.
  116. Do not live where the spouse is frequently absent.
  117. Your living unit must have a private bath and entrance.
  118. You may occasionally fast for a special reason, but generally the monthly fast is sufficient.
  119. Do not fast longer than 24 hours at a time.
  120. Do not ask friends, relatives, and members to join in special fasts for investigators.
  121. Maintain your health.
  122. Eat a healthy diet.
  123. Sleep from 10:30 to 6:30.
  124. Follow the approved exercise program.
  125. Keep your body, clothes, dishes, linens, towels and housing unit clean.
  126. Dispose of your garbage properly and promptly.
  127. Follow the safety rules for all of your stuff.
  128. Seek medical care if you are in an accident or become sick.
  129. Be immunized.
  130. Spend your money only on things relating to your mission.
  131. Budget your money carefully.
  132. Keep a record of what you spend.
  133. Do not spend more than your companion.
  134. Do not loan money.
  135. Do not borrow money.
  136. Keep a reserve fund of $50 to $100 at all times for transfers.
  137. Pay your bills before leaving an area.
  138. Pay cash for all resale literature and supplies ordered from the mission office.
  139. Do not waste money on souvenirs.
  140. Do not waste money on unnecessary items.
  141. Be a frugal photographer.
  142. Do not accumulate excess baggage.
  143. Obey custom laws and regulations.
  144. Pay fast offerings each fast Sunday to the bishop or branch president where you serve.
  145. Pay tithing on outside sources of income (i.e. interest) to your home bishop or branch president.
  146. Evaluate your funds a few months before the end of your mission. If you have more than you need, ask that less be sent so that you can return home without excess money.
  147. Do not drive without a license.
  148. Drive only Church-owned vehicles.
  149. Do not drive members’ cars.
  150. Do not drive nonmembers’ cars.
  151. Do not give rides to members or investigators in Church-owned cars.
  152. Use cars only on approved mission business.
  153. Use cars only within the assigned geographical area.
  154. Be conscious of safety at all times.
  155. Drive defensively.
  156. Wear your seat belt.
  157. Pray for the Lord’s protection while driving.
  158. If your companion is driving, assist him or her.
  159. Do not tamper with the vehicle’s odometer.
  160. Know bicycle safety rules.
  161. Use extreme caution on your bicycle.
  162. Do not ride your bicycle after dark.
  163. Do not ride your bicycle in heavy traffic.
  164. Do not ride your bicycle in adverse weather conditions.
  165. Go directly to your new area when transferred.
  166. Find your new companion without delay when transferred.
  167. Have a maximum of two suitcases and a briefcase.

60 posted on 02/16/2013 11:53:51 AM PST by Elsie (Heck is where people, who don't believe in Gosh, think they are not going...)
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