I’m a Mormon, have been my whole life. I have NEVER understood this kind of depression and guilt among LDS women. I know it exists among a lot of women of my faith.
At the same time if you think that this is really a problem you should figure out if the problem is just with the attitude of the average woman in todays world or if the problem is the Church.
I was going to suggest that you read and reread every word of what Jesus said and dwell on it and to even follow the path to the cross where he was slain as the lamb of God and see how much of it you can recognize in your Church.
But i see you have read about Jesus and as you say he is what this is all about to begin with.
I would bet that this HAS been done.
The only problem is (and this can exist in ANY church) is that the church's teachings on the matter gets drilled into a person MORE than what was actually read to begin with.