Posted on 04/26/2019 4:48:03 AM PDT by Kaslin
Identity politics revives sexist stereotypes, and like most stereotypes, they diminish us all to a multitude of prejudices. Generalizations seek the simplest common denominator and usually sink to the lowest.
In conversations about manhood, which, in certain circles, is regarded as something like the black plague of the 14th century, we're reduced to talking about the toxic male as the key to understanding the nature of men. We know that not all men suffer the curse of venomous aggressiveness, but the popular media version of the male animal makes the slightest aggression -- hugs, flirtatious banter and harmless hand and neck touches, once regarded as gentle gestures of affection -- the weapons of masculine armament. They must be eradicated to save the male-female relationship. The race, after all, must stumble on. You could ask an old codger like former Vice President Joe Biden. He's having to learn that what once worked as an affectionate gesture doesn't work in the time warp where old codgers live.
Thus the overdone toxic male -- crusty on the outside, tough on the inside -- is evolving into the timid guy, afraid of his shadow, something like the groundhog. But unlike the groundhog, he must test things every day. Life is a fearsome thing for Generation Z. Boston College now offers course lessons in "social courage" to help the frightened male find romance.
In one assignment, a professor challenged her students to ask someone of "legitimate romantic interest" out on a date. The prospect so terrified the class that one young man threw up. Finally, the day came when he figured he had enough "social courage" to make a stab at it. "I can do this," he told himself. "Just ask her. The worst thing she can do is say no." He walked up to her, as he recounted to Elizabeth Bernstein in The Wall Street Journal, and blurted out, "Hey, do you want to go out on a date?" They both survived.
Flirting and courting are not easy in Generation Z, where the lives of the young have been so micromanaged by parents, teachers and peers that when the inevitable urges of youth arrive, the youths often don't have a clue about what to do. They're afraid of the pains and pangs that have always punctuated this most difficult transition from childhood to adulthood, the passage that typically makes high school such a minefield of emotions, feelings and passions. But for the beautiful cheerleader or the swaggering quarterback, few of us recall those days with unalloyed pleasure.
I still wince at recalling my first crush on a suave senior. I was only an overly serious sophomore. The senior was the after-school clerk at the corner drugstore, and I used the excuse of buying a tube of toothpaste just for the sight of him. I was trying to get the social courage to ask him to take me to the Sadie Hawkins Day dance, named for the day in the Lil Abner comic strip where the girls ask the boys out. After several toothpaste-buying trips, I finally asked him and he replied, with the gravity of the secretary of state answering a diplomatic invitation, "I'll have to check my calendar and get back to you."
He finally answered with a long shaggy-dog story about having to take an uncle to a family dinner, rambling on with the explanation, the facts of which I've long forgotten -- if I even heard them. So great was my mortification. But I did collect a lifetime supply of Pepsodent toothpaste.
Asking and being told no is never easy, as we all remember. We just had to put it down to the agony of growing up. Being philosophical about disappointments of the heart is not so easy among les miserables of Generation Z. These are the "snowflakes" who imagine they're unique in fleeing a meltdown and think they're entitled to a safe place to retreat to when someone or something unpleasant flits across the radar screen.
The timid man may be overreacting to a subconscious understanding that being the man isn't what he used to be, with women comprising the majority of scholars in most of the professional schools, such as medicine and law. Women are more likely to get a bachelor's degree than men, the minimal essential for moving on up.
Psychologically speaking, the timid male is more likely to play into the groundhog image, an earnest man fearing a misstep or misinterpretation in doing what comes naturally. Almost no one is willing to defend crude behavior in the phrase "boys will be boys." But we can hope boys will learn to become men. Women who think they want a harmless, grown-up Mr. Milquetoast have something to learn, too.
Good example from Vikings to snowflakes look at Sweden. Cant change biology but they are sure trying hard to do it
You could ask an old codger like former Vice President Joe Biden. He’s having to learn that what once worked as an affectionate gesture doesn’t work...
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“Affectionate gesture my azz!!!!! What that freak does with children is perverted...I don’t care how old or young you are....
I never knew a woman who didn't hate weakness in a man.
From the first few sentences I assumed this was a Biden reputation rehabilitation piece.
Jesus, Mary and Joseph.
There’s much too much pyscho-babble on the subjects of manhood, relationships, workplace do’s and don’t’s etc.
ENOUGH!
That’s exactly what it looked like...
I hate lack of courage in a man. However, at the same time, I like quiet thoughtful men.
“Thus the overdone toxic male — crusty on the outside, tough on the inside — is evolving into the timid guy, afraid of his shadow,.....”
Only males who are not men fit the description written above.
I am over 70 and feel no different today, respond in the same way and act no differently than when I was in my 20s and up. My actions and attitudes in the 50s and 60s were acceptable then and I am not even attempting to change.
” Boston College now offers course lessons in “social courage” to help the frightened male find romance.”
STOP BEATING OFF MORONS!
Class dismissed.
A myth invented by the millennial, safe-space, snowflake feminists of today.
My wife and I were invited to a casual dinner party with some kayaking friends of my wife....all female. About 8-10 of them, mostly young in their 30s. I was the only guy. Sitting around eating on the porch, one gal asked me who I was. I spoke up and joked, "I'm your token toxic male."
Almost in unison, the gals around me laughed and said, "Thank heaven for toxic males. We need more of them."
They went on to explain that the sensitive, feminine-type guys who passed for males nowadays were not dating or husband material. They wanted the strong, masculine types. These gals were all raised in the South and were mostly small town, rural women, not big city urban gals. They had had enough of the metro-sexual, tail-between-their-legs wimps that society has produced.
True story.
There are few women. There are only men and fake men.
YES, what you said. I can’t believe so many self-acclaimed “intellectuals” have so much time that they can sit around and analyze all of this sh!t, ad infinitum.
Look, prove me wrong...Hollywood/Elites in Europe and America and have been desperately trying to tone down any and all real manliness since the seventies...Again, prove me wrong.
Biologically women really don’t find feminine men all that appealing, however, they can be taught to find it attractive, but biologically the body wants what the body wants, a woman wants to mate with a biologically superior male in order to pass along superior genes.
Again, prove me wrong...just look at your high school years, this is the perfect microcosm of young males and females that exist in a vacuum, before all the social engineering is laid on them, although most would argue that the social engineering is starting earlier and earlier, the beautiful females prefer the more athletic, confident, attractive males over the nerdy, awkward, less attractive, less confident, males. This is a fact of life and I would argue that this equation doesn’t change until the realization hits women, usually much later in life, that what they are really looking for is someone that is a “great provider,” and can look past just simply looks.
Hollywood and the elites have been desperately trying to feminize males for so long that when women actually encounter a “man,” someone that actually hunts, fishes, spends time outdoors, can handle tools, knows his way around a car, is confident, can and will actually defend himself and the lady he is with, believes in God, is good with kids, and can actually catch and throw a ball and is a good provider or has the potential to be…Women fall in love.
A lot of liberal women find conservative men very attractive – However, the flip side is not always true, liberal women come across as very needy, clingy, and not that stable, and confident, conservative men avoid these women like the plague.
Liberal women are very hard to be around…They simply know so much, so much that is wrong, that their confidence in so many things that are wrong, most men simply will not risk the time to bother getting to know them.
Actually, Brad Paisley sings a great song about “I’m still a guy.”
“When you see a deer you see Bambi
And I see antlers up on the wall
When you see a lake you think picnic
And I see a large mouth up under that log
You’re probably thinking that you’re going to change me
In some ways well maybe you might
Scrub me down, dress me up all but no matter what
Remember I’m still a guy”
Just remember, in the end, this is exactly what the feminists wanted, and they got exactly what they wanted, neutered males that won’t hit on you...You asked for it, you got it. The guys that didn’t fall for your feminization, they are doing just fine...God Bless America!!
Now shut up and fish!!
I heard that Victoria Secret and jewelry stores are really hurting, now.
The biz pace of ANYTHING connected to normal romance is slowing down.
What will it be like when sex robots are affordable and sorta convincing..?
The whole world will be Mali and Mormons. Oh, and Amish.
Limiting or non useful habits can be broken and useful habits can be reprogrammed. There are many techniques for that.
The psychological emasculation of the American boys began just after Bobby Kennedy was murdered by a Palestinian immigrant back in 1968. An anti-violence hysteria followed with an attempt to make boys more “feminin” and “less” prone to “being boys”.
Just trying to turn all boys into a “Caspar Milquetoast” since 1968. “Caspar Milquetoast” was a comic strip way back when were still expected to be men.
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