American Psychological Association Has Made Choosing a Therapist Easy

The American Psychological Association has, in its words, issued "its first-ever guidelines for practice with men and boys." These guidelines "draw on more than 40 years of research showing that traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful and that socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage."

If you need proof, ask women who are looking for a husband whether the men they date exhibit too much masculinity, too little masculinity or just the right amount. I have talked to hundreds of women on my radio show (every week I have a "Male/Female Hour"), at speeches and in private who are dating to find a spouse. Not one has said men today are too masculine. Virtually all of them have said men today lack masculinity.

And why wouldn't men lack masculinity? A vast number of boys grow up either with no father or with a father they rarely see. Their lives are dominated by women -- their mother, virtually all their teachers, probably their school principal and probably their therapist.

As if that were not bad enough, many of the single mothers of these American boys are angry at the man who never married them, or at the man who divorced them, or at men in general. In addition, these boys' women teachers suppress their natural testosterone-driven male behaviors. And now their teachers increasingly tell them they may not even be a boy.

Of course, some men are boors -- demanding sex on the first date, sending sex-filled messages, etc. But most men know boorishness is not masculinity. Such behaviors emanate not from masculinity but from poor upbringing and/or the sexual revolution, which taught men and women that the sex drives of men and women are the same.

But as psychoanalyst Erica Komisar wrote in the Wall Street Journal last week, it is "a recipe for mental illness" to tell boys that "aggression, competitiveness and protectiveness is a sign of sickness."

2. This is another example of the most important rule of contemporary life: The left ruins everything it touches.

The left has ruined the arts; the universities; high schools; the nuclear family; mainstream Protestantism, Catholicism and Judaism; the Boy Scouts; and journalism. And it is now doing the same to the sciences: Universities are increasingly choosing science faculty based on gender and race rather than on scientific expertise.

Psychology and psychiatry have long been homes to left-wing fools (recall the 1964 example of 1,189 psychiatrists declaring then-presidential candidate Sen. Barry Goldwater "psychologically unfit"). But the APA statement will do even more harm.

The American Psychological Association goes beyond defining "traditional masculinity" as "on the whole, harmful." It urges therapists to help men "identify how they have been harmed by discrimination against those who are gender nonconforming." That's right. Your son's psychotherapist will explain to him how it is entirely normal for a boy his age (beginning in kindergarten) to wear a dress, and that regarding an 8-year-old boy in a dress as not quite healthy is what is not quite healthy. In addition, the APA hopes this therapist will reassure your son that he, too, may well choose to be a girl.

In the words of Komisar, this is "an ideological claim transformed into a clinical treatment recommendation." That "ideological claim" is, of course, leftism.

The hardest part of starting psychotherapy is figuring out how to choose a psychotherapist. If you choose the wrong one, you will not only be wasting a great deal of time and money; you will not be helped, and you might well be harmed.

So, how does one go about choosing a psychotherapist? The APA just made the task much simpler: Just ask any therapist you are considering for yourself or someone else, "Do you agree with the American Psychological Association that 'traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful'?"

If the therapist agrees, thank him or her for the time and leave. If the therapist starts giving a prolonged response, leave. Any therapist who cannot unequivocally condemn the APA statement is unworthy of your time and your money, let alone your psyche. Many will try to weasel out of directly agreeing (or disagreeing) with the statement. They will tell you that sometimes masculinity is a problem. But they are just being careful not to lose you as a potential client. Such a statement is meaningless: There is nothing that cannot be harmful at times. That includes femininity as much as masculinity, and it includes such normally good things as water (a lot of people drown, after all).

Without "traditional masculinity," civilization is lost. Ask anyone you know who agrees with using the term "the greatest generation" to describe the generation that fought World War II whether the men of that generation would have fought, much less won, without "traditional masculinity."

Do not trust therapists who will not condemn the APA statement. They are either a fool or a coward. They may well be very kind and sincere. But that means nothing. You or your child will not be helped by kindness and sincerity. You or your child will only be helped by wisdom.

Not sure if my youngest son will ever recover from going to a Psychologist. His wife found him someone to "talk to" and now the therapist is the only one he is talking to. He grew up in a Christian home, with a Mom and Dad that are still married, 45 years this year!

He hates us, has not spoken to us save a few yelling conversations, in 18 months, no Thanksgiving, no Christmas. He hates his oldest brother and brings up his "bullying" when children, every time he talks to him which is not much. The older brother has apologized for his youth antics. He is filing for divorce from his wife of 5 years!

Any discipline we merited out, the Psychologist disagrees completely and we are to blame for the harm inflicted on our youngest son. He is 31 years old and has not lived with us for over 12 years! The Therapist is endorsing micro doses of LSD daily even during work days, if our son likes it and feels it helps him.

All we can do is pray for him, and be there one day when he discovers a college educated God denying psychologists is the worse thing that could have happen to him, I hope he can break free one day.

LIke most professional guild organizations, the APA has been politicized beyond any usefulness. They are derelict in their original mission statement and have no credibility among normal psychologists. This kind of pseudo scientific position statement will be noted only by those misguided (mostly female but not only female) psychotherapists who already agree with it.

The media will like this but in a couple days it will sink without a trace, like the evanescent “social statements” periodically issued by moribund Protestant mainline churches.

Psychology is way too broad. I took courses in sensory processes and psychophysics but when I run into the “therapist” types, I hang my head in shame. They seem to think something actually exists if they give a name to it. They probably learned from the drug industry.

And then there’s the parapsychologists. At least they get jobs on the Travel Channel.

The inmates have been running the asylum at the APA for some time now. A significant number of people who go into the psychological profession initially become interested in the field due to seeking treatment for their own psychological problems.

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